(Closed) Can you celebrate TOO much?

posted 10 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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144 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I understand where you’re coming from. We are having an engagement party, 2 bridal showers and our own seperate bachelor/bachelorette parties.

I would talk to some of the people throwing them and ask them to put on the invites that you don’t want gifts, or have them tell people by word of mouth.

We’re not getting gifts at any of them except the 2 bridal showers.

Good luck!

p.s. when is your wedding? mine is 10/17/09, sounds like yours is pretty close to ours!

Post # 4
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286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2007

If I was invited to multiple events for the same person, but thrown by different people, I would never think that the bride is milking me for presents.  I actually would feel flattered that the bride would want me to attend both (or more) events.

Post # 5
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Busy bee

is there anyway to combine any of those celebrations or keep them among separate groups of friends so that the guest lists don’t overlap?  keep in mind that certain guests like your BMs and GMs will probably feel overwhelmed with all these celebrations but will not have the option of skipping out on them without looking like really bad friends (unless they live out of town).  if your friends are really eager to help you celebrate, another option is also to just celebrate separately with just these friends, versus inviting all your friends every time.

FI and i will probably have separate celebrations with different groups of friends – work, friends, school, church, etc.

good luck!

Post # 6
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508 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

People love to throw parties…  We’re having a joint shower and have asked our MOH to make it a potluck – no gifts other than what they bring to share.  That way, no one feels like they are showing up empty handed, but it’s not seen as a gift grab (even if that’s not at all the intention).

Another option would be to have theme showers where gifts could be smaller/creative, like an entertainment shower – movie tickets, books, board games, wine, dinner, etc.

Finally, try talking to some of the potential hosts and see if they may want to help out in another way – perhaps helping with some of the wedding prep?  

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