(Closed) Can you cheat but it not mean anything?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Can cheating not mean anything?
    Yes, cheating can just be physical : (48 votes)
    14 %
    Yes, it's just a bit of fun if no one finds out : (8 votes)
    2 %
    Yes, I could cheat but still want to be with my partner : (30 votes)
    9 %
    No, cheating means the end of a relationship : (57 votes)
    17 %
    No, but it doesn't have to mean the end of a relationship : (67 votes)
    20 %
    No, cheating is being unfaithful on all levels : (123 votes)
    37 %
  • Post # 3
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    7240 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @Corgi-cariad:  I don’t think it could “not mean anything” because, to me, it means you don’t respect your relationship. (Obviously, I’m assuming “cheating” means it’s not something your partner is ok with.)

    Post # 4
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    1177 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I think it’s certainly possible for it not to mean anything to the cheater. I think it’s very unlikely for the cheatee to agree, though.

    Post # 5
    Member
    1109 posts
    Bumble bee

    I think cheating can mean nothing. Sometimes cheating can be about wanting more attention, feeling inadeqaute, and sometimes has nothing to do with thier partner. I think people cheat for different reasons and only the cheater can understand why they did it. Not saying I agree with cheating at all, I can just understand it from both sides.

    Edit – Also Cheating can change your life for the better if it makes you realize something you never knew before. Cheating can big life event, for someone who’s never done or thought they were capable of doing that.

     

     

    Post # 6
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    4441 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    @Corgi-cariad:  I think it definitely means SOMETHING.  But I don’t think that it needs to mean the end of the relationship.

    Post # 7
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    3574 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think people can make mistakes, and that it doesn’t always have the meaning people attach to it.  I think usually it is a wakeup call that your relationship needs work.

    Post # 8
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    7992 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    I think it always means something… exactly what that something is is open to debate. Was their relationship on the way out anyway? Are they a total dog who is unable to commit, or who just likes the excitement? Are they after the physical thrill? Who knows. But I definitely don’t think it means nothing. Telling yourself that it means nothing is just a way of being in denial.

    Post # 9
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    1333 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Emotional affairs most likely mean something. Emotional affairs that lead to a physical affair can definitely, maybe mean something.  A physical affair, imo, can absolutely ‘mean nothing’.  Yes, there is meaning behind WHY you strayed, but the actual act can be emotionless and raw.  To me, it is no different than a ‘one night stand’ where you just crave the physicality behind the sex, but can literally have no feelings or emotion toward the act!  FOR THE RECORD, when I say no different, I meant it as the act itself.  Obviously, it is very different because you are cheating on someone whom you love, or at least are committed too!

    Post # 11
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    6207 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    @MexiPino:  +1 that’s exactly what I was going to say

    Post # 12
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    2781 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @Corgi-cariad:  People cheat for different reasons, some examples: stress, something lacking in a rrelationship,  money problems, ego boost,  because the opportunity presented itself. Cheating doesn’t mean you don’t love your partner,  it just means there is sonething wrong in the relationship.  Sometimes,  those issues can be repaired,  and sometimes they can’t.  

    Post # 13
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    9631 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @Corgi-cariad:   Someone saying they cheated but “it didn’t mean anything” is the epitome of the definition of lying to themselves, not to mention lying to their partner.  Everything means something.  Cheating is dishonest, obviously.  It can mean a million different things to each and every cheater, but it definitely means something.

    Post # 14
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    4755 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    yes I think it can mean nothing (ie regretful, and huge mistake), but I also think that there are reasons that led to the discrepency that need to be addressed by the cheater AND the one cheated on.

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