Post # 1
For the life of me, I just can’t seem to fall asleep while spooning. We spoon every night and it really is a great way to show love/affection at the end of a long day. But after a few minutes the arm he drapes over me gets HEAVY. Then I want to straighten my legs out, but can’t because that would ruin the “spoon”. Then my hip starts hurting because it is getting the most pressure from laying sideways on it. Then he starts falling asleep – breathing on the back of my neck. My foot begins to itch…. How do I scratch my itching foot without waking him up 🙁 I very, very slowly bring my foot up to my hand and scratch it. Ugh but then if you are like me, once there is ONE itch, you notice that other areas begin to itch a little as well. My back starts itching because FI’s chest and abdomen hairs are tickling it. I say “screw it” and begin rubbing my back vigorously against his chest and abdomen hairs, essentially using him as a human scratching post. It wakes him up of course. I just don’t know how to fall asleep spooning. Am I the only one?
Post # 3
DH and I have our cuddling time right before we sleep, but then we NEED our space! Cuddling can get TOO HOT!
Post # 4
@GonnaBeMrsB: Haha, nope, you are not alone! We don’t even like touching when we sleep.
We will cuddle and spoon before bed or while watching tv on the couch, but when it’s bed time, no touching!
Post # 5
I am with you! I cannot spoon or cuddle while sleeping for anything. Honestly, I need my space lol I don’t like people breathing on me or hearing snoring loudly in my ear. The first time DH and I “slept” together in college I actually told him this off the bat. 9 years later, still can’t do it and he doesn’t get offended.
I can nap on him for maybe 20 mins, but that is as far as it goes!
Post # 6
I have to be exhausted to fall asleep while cuddling. It’s nice and intimate, but realistically, it doesn’t work.
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Nope. Don’t touch me when I am trying to sleep.
Post # 8
I enjoy spooning, but I can’t fall asleep while doing it. It’s happened a couple of times, but usually only when taking a short nap. I get too hot, and I like having some space. He loves to fall asleep spooning though, so he’ll usually cuddle up, fall asleep, and then after a few minutes I move around and he wakes up and rolls over. Not the best arrangement for him…
Post # 9
I can fall asleep really easily while spooning or cuddling and honestly it is what I prefer, haha. My DH on the other hand is hot blooded and can only cuddle for so long unless the house is super cold. Typically we fall asleep in a loose spoon, if that makes sense? LOL. He doesn’t get so hot that way and I get my cuddles.
Post # 10
@GonnaBeMrsB: you just described my thought process to a T. I do the exact same thing 🙂
I love spooning, but it’s not condusive to sleeping!
Post # 11
Both DH and I cannot sleep touching each other – we just can’t. We will spoon or snuggle at night, but then when it’s time to fall asleep we both retreat to our sides of the bed. However, we can both fall asleep with the cats snuggled up to us!
Post # 12
@GonnaBeMrsB: Nope. Neither of us are snuggly sleepers; we both like our space and have a 6′ wide bed lol. I get terribly hot, and like to be able to move about/change sides; I feel claustrophobic and restricted if we cuddle up.
Post # 13
Because truth is this is something I could do quite easily when I was a younger person… Now that I am older I need more space (personal space).. lol, that and hot flashes, make it not practical.
Post # 14
I said “Sometimes. But only if I’ve had too much to drink” but it really has to do with the temperature, how tired I am, and if my SO is comfortable sleeping on his back or towards me. I hate being the big spoon and he prefers to sleep on the side away from me.
Post # 15
@GonnaBeMrsB: Cuddling is nice for a 20 minute nap, for sleeping…… we each roll over to our side of the king size bed lol!
Post # 16
@GonnaBeMrsB: It’s almost a ritual for FI and I to spoon at night. I can handle about 5 minutes before FI arm feels like a weight crushing my ribs in. I tap my FI’s arm when I’m ready to go to sleep and he turns over. It’s an unspoken term of “I love you, but you’re too heavy”. It’s pretty normal.