Can you have a baby shower if it is not your first child?

posted 3 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Can you have a baby shower if it is not your first child?
    No, never : (67 votes)
    27 %
    Not usually, but in this case it is okay : (86 votes)
    35 %
    Yes, you can have one for every pregnancy : (74 votes)
    30 %
    Yes, as long as you don't ask for gifts : (21 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    3948 posts
    Honey bee

    I would say that is a no-no. I’m sure close friends and family will give a gift when the baby is born, but I wouldnt throw a full blown shower and have your sister register and all that. Its inappropriate in my opinion.

    Post # 4
    Member
    819 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    @MrsPanda99:  I think if the baby is the a different sex than the first it’s ok.. And especially in this case since there are TWO of them!

    Post # 5
    Member
    9137 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    @MrsPanda99:  Yes, you can but they are usually called “sprinkles” where I live and the mom does not register for anything since it’s her second, third, or fourth child.  However, guests will usually bring a small gift for the baby (usually clothing or diapers.)  There’s nothing wrong with having a party to celebrate a new baby!

    Post # 7
    Member
    11722 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Personally, I don’t think it’s appropriate, but if your family/friends would be open to it, I don’t think it’s the worst thing you could do!

    Post # 9
    Member
    7281 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    In our circle it’s fairly common to have a shower for each pregnancy. The 2nd or 3rd shower may be smaller and more low key, but we’re always looking for an excuse to celebrate the happy parts of life.

    Post # 13
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    2243 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I think this is an exceptional situation. The fact that they’re having twins of a different gender is a double wammy. They’re kind of starting from scratch when it comes to clothes, strollers, and a lot of other stuff. Given the circumstance I think a shower is almost necessary.

    Post # 14
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    2839 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @MrsPanda99:  Would it be an option to just organize some gifts from you and your siblings without having a full-blown shower? Like, could you get together and buy an extra crib and a double stroller and a ton of diapers without hosting a party?

    I might raise an eyebrow a little bit at a second shower, but I’d never be like, monocle-dropping offended by it – and I’d probably send a gift, as a relative or close friend – whether there was a shower or not. (Although if there’s ever a situation where a second shower is appropriate, this is it.) But if you’re worried your relatives might be all, “Well, I never!” then you might want to organize something smaller for just the inner circle. 

    Post # 15
    Member
    2546 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    if people think it’s rude, who the f* cares? throw a shower and enjoy it!

    Post # 16
    Member
    2270 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    Where I’m from, it’s almost expected to have a shower for each baby.  Infact, potential guests can get cranky if they hear there isn’t going to be a shower for a 2nd, 3rd, etc baby.  They want to celebrate all babies! lol

    I personally don’t see what the problem is.  To me, each baby deserves to be celebrated.  Maybe don’t have a shower of epic proportions that usually comes along with a 1st child, but a small gathering of friends seems appropriate. 

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