Can you have a black tie optional ceremony at 3 pm on a Saturday?

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Ceremony Options
    Start at 3 but not do black tie optional : (11 votes)
    41 %
    Start at 3 and still do black tie optional : (7 votes)
    26 %
    Keep looking for a ceremony space and keep original time (5:30 pm) : (9 votes)
    33 %
  • Post # 3
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    2395 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I think I’d start at 3 and NOT do black tie optional, since that’s not a real thing anyway.  The event is either black tie or it’s not.

    Post # 5
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    255 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @Soontobemrs2012:  When I went for my first appointment for invitations I told the woman that I’d like to write “black tie optional” on the invites. She kind of rolled her eyes (not in a rude way)  and told me that black tie optional doesn’t exist. It’s either black tie or it’s not. She also said it wasn’t necessary to write Black Tie on the invitation because it would be implied by the type of invitation I was sending and by the start of the ceremony (6PM).

    To answer your question, I would say that no you can’t have a black tie ceremony at 3PM. However, I think you can convey to your guests that it’s a formal affair based on the invitation you pick out.

    Hope this helps! 

    Post # 6
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    1938 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    So would there be a gap between ceremony and reception then? Because people could potentially change if they didn’t want to wear their formal wear at 3p.m.

     In regards to PP that people will assume something is black tie based on the invite. I would have to disagree. If I got a really fancy looking invite. I would think wow, what a beautiful invite. But I would not think – oh I must go buy a long gown to wear to this event now.

    Peronsally, I would be okay with a black tie optional event at 3, but I’m pretty laid back about “the rules” of weddings. 

    Post # 8
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    4576 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @PuntaCanaBride:  +1 What you said. I’ve seen many kinds of invites, and never tried to guess the dress code based on the “look” of them.

    @Soontobemrs2012:  As a guest, I wouldnt have any qualms about getting dressed up on a Saturday afternoon 🙂 I say go with what’s going to be the easiest for you!

    Post # 10
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    10748 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Sure, why not! I love an excuse to really dress up. 

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