Post # 1
So here is the deal, my family is Catholic, his family is Christian. My parents really wanted me to get married through the catholic church but I didnt really care to because we have never really gone to church to begin with so I’m not going to say that I am a strong Catholic believer of the Virgen Mary and all that, just God himself, and Fiance has never been baptized or any of the other things that are needed to marry in a Catholic church (besides he said he wasnt going to change his faith and I respect that) so we decided with civil. I do not have a problem with civil at all because my grandparents were married that way and they have been married so long, as well as other couples I admire that did not have to get married through a church to know that they believe in God and that they love each other. Well we are doing the ceremony at the venue to make it better, but I was wondering can we include lazo and arras in the civil ceremony? We also want to add a unity candle. Fiance pastor will be the one to marry us because we wanted someone we knew and he can do civil ceremonies as well. As you can tell we are trying to incorporate both religions to keep mainly my family happy. Please help me out bees!
Post # 3
That’s something you’ll need to talk to your officiant about. I know people who have done the lazo in civil ceremonies, and it doesn’t need a priest or an ordained minister to conduct that part of the ceremony. As long as your officiant is comfortable with using this cultural tradition, I don’t think you’ll have any problems! Unity candles also have nothing to do with the Catholic religion, so again, it’s not a religious vs. civil thing, but a preference of your officiant thing.
Post # 4
@abbie017: Ok, thanks so much for the info, we will talk to our officiant about it then 🙂
Post # 5
We are doing the lasso and arras. I am Baptist and FI was raised Catholic but is not practicing. I don’t think a pastor will mind as long as you explain what it is. Most would agree with the purpose/meaning of the ceremony. We are marrying in the same location as the ceremony for logistic sake so technically ours is a civil wedding although my Pastor is marrying us. Am I wrong that generally the Padrino and Madrina usually perform the lasso ceremony? So really the only thing your Pastor would perform would be the arras side of things? Or am I totally wrong here?
Post # 6
Yes you can! It does not matter what you include. Your officiant can incorporate anything you want into your ceremony. After all, you are paying for it! If he is a strict Pastor, he may have his own way of doing things, but most regular officiants are willing to customize your wedding rituals. Good luck! Lise of My Beloved Wed and Art
Post # 7
@LaRieal: No, you are right, the padrinos are the ones who put the lazo over the couple & we are doing ceremony at the venue, so I agee on it seeming more civil since we wont actually be at a church.
@LiseRamosMorales: very true! But I dont think Fiance Pastor is strict, if I’m correct he included arras and lazo when he married FI’s brother and SIL so I dont think we will have a problem.