Post # 1
So my guest list is getting pretty out of hand! Originally had wanted 125, then moved our expectation to 150 now it is likely to be 175+.. Not good for the pocket book. Our parents are helping with the wedding and have decided they want to invite extended family that FI and I had originally cut out. Since they are paying for a large chunk of wedding I feel we have to cave. <br /><br />My mom said that she wanted to invite her aunt to the wedding and 2/3 of her cousins. Is this ok to do? What does wedding ettiquette say? I am afraid of paying $106/pp for someone she really doesnt want there (and I could care less) but may end up inviting because she invited their siblings.
Any opinions/advice welcomed!<br /><br />Thanks Bees
Post # 2
2/3 of the cousins of the mother of the bride is more than generous. My daughter’s wedding had 95 attending, and 2 uncles, out of 8 aunts/uncles weren’t invited. (Only 2 of 6 invited attended, anyway). If you don’t have a strong relationship with them, why would you invite them, or why would they even want to attend?
Post # 3
Assuming that your mom is financing it and paying for the extra guests, let her take the lead on this. If she has already made a decision as to who she would like to have there, she is probably already prepared for any fallout from upset family members. But, if they don’t have a strong relationship as you say, I don’t think there would be too many issues with them not being included. I’m excluding a few family members from our guest list due to some past drama between them and my parents, and I have not received any pushback from them or from the rest of the family.
Post # 4
- Wedding: December 2014 - The Bellagio Hotel, Las Vegas
I have invited 125 people in hoping only 30 come and I left out a lot of family members I’m not close to or that I just don’t like. It’s your day and you don’t need to invite anyone you don’t want there.
Post # 5
AntonyaDial: I have invited 125 people in hoping only 30 come <br /><br /><br />
Really–you invited that many and hope only 30 come??? I’m puzzled. Unless it was a gift grab?
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2015 - Historic house and gardens
I am inviting immediately family only. No aunts, uncles, cousins etc. I did want to invite one uncle (I have 6 uncle/aunt couples), but the others would get all butt-hurt, so I let it go. FI is inviting his aunts/uncles, but he is way closer to them and he only has 2.
For my first wedding I only invited one aunt, who I was closest to at the time, and my uncle got all stupid about it and wouldn’t talk to my mum (his sister) for about 5 years over it. People really can be quite ridiculous.
Bottomline is, it’s your day, invite whoever you want. But be aware that people do get pissed off and it can cause waves.