Can you move your wedding date to accommodate our schedules???

posted 2 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Mrs.Madore:  After awhile you just have to take the plunge and go with the date you want.  We’re having a small wedding on a Thursday afternoon and though we worked to clear the date with everyone at a certain point you just have to say ‘screw it’ we’re going to be married on the date we want.

Post # 3
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6279 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

so weird that people are asking you to move the date but a tuesday is a bit different. 

 

i selected our date with my DH and my mother.  that was all i consulted.  we put the deposit down.

then i asked my bridesmaids.  2 of them had an annual activity that they participate it but skipped it that year to be apart of my wedding.

if you want that tuesday, stick to your guns and hope people will come around if they want to celebrate with you.

 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

Make your plans, tell people, and if they can’t come, they can’t come. 

Post # 5
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204 posts
Helper bee

I am going through the exact same thing, my FI and I are getting married in the DR in August and we’ve had complaints already too. I understand the location and date don’t work for everyone, however, we made the decision for multiple reasons, and it’s our decision ultimately. My FI said this is their problem, not our problem, and if they can’t come, we’re sad about that, but we’re still getting married. I would just say, “I absolutely understand that this may  not work for your schedule, however, this is the decision we made, and we completely understand if you can’t make it. ” That’s what we’ve been saying and people immediately backpedal and say, no we’ll be there, that’s not what I meant, etc. Good luck!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Mrs.Madore:   Pick your date and stick to it.  I think your plans sound wonderful.  Those who want to be there will make it happen!  

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Mrs.Madore:  When you choose something inconvenient for others you’ll catch some flack.  It’s ok, just more forward with your plan and let people know that you aren’t goign to change things but certainly won’t hold it against them if they can’t make it.

I had a DW in Mexico where all the guests came for a full week and my wedding was on a Thursday.  I was super thankful to anyone who was able to take the time and money to make the trip, but was always careful to be gracious to those who decided to decline.  Vacation time is precious.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I mean…I can’t imagine that it’s easy for people to just take off time in the middle of the week to attend a DW. It’s hard enough to take time off to go on a weekend. Your reasoning doesn’t make sense…you want time to relax before the wedding and don’t want to be rushed on a weekend? Why don’t you just rent the house the week before and if people can come up early, great. 

For such a small wedding you should really be more considerate of people’s schedules. If people are telling you they can’t make it because of the date, why don’t you have it on a Friday or Saturday? 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

sarals24: eh disagree. If ppl considered everybody’s feelings all the time, they would never be able to get married bec nothing would ever get agreed upon, settled, or completed. DWs r no different just because of the number of guests or the location.

 OP, there has to be a line drawn somewhere and it’s possible u could twist ur wedding all up to satisfy other ppl and they might not even attend. Which is almost what happened to me. U plan the wedding u want, the way u want it .

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Agree with the previous posters, it’s your day, so if other people can’t make it, oh well.

Although I do want to say, it’s easier for most people to take off Wed – Fri than Mon – Wed.  Monday is the start of the work week, which usually means its often the busiest day of the week for most workers after coming back on a weekend.

 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

They will be there if they want to be there. It is the date you and your SO picked and it is plenty of time for everyone that wants to go to plan to go. If you start moving your date around to accomate people, there will be someone else that gets hurt feelings because you can’t have it when they want you to have it. Tell them it is 5/5/15 and that’s it. 

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