Post # 1
Our ceremony and reception are at the same venue, My photographer advised us to start the ceremony at 4, to ensure we have enough time for photos, we are getting married in February (stays light until 7:30) so light isnt a problem.
The problem is this : if we have our ceremony at 4pm, there will be a gap between 5 and when the reception and bar tab start, the only thing we are able to do is either
A: put $300 on the bar downstairs for guests (we have 110 guests so dont know how far that will go) or
B: Pay $300 to have the canapes served 5 instead of 6.
Im at a loss and dont want my guests to be neglected
4:15 Bridal Party Entrance
4:50 Group photos
5:00 Family Photos( 5:00-6:00pm gap between the start of our bar package but have organised for canapes to be served but cash bar until 6)
6:10 Bridal Party In Board Room
6:15 MC Welcome
6:20 Bridal Party Enter guests seated
6:25 FOB toast to bride and groom Speech
7:00 Groom Response speech
7:20 Main 7:15-8:00 Band
8:00 Cake Cutting
8:10 Best Man
8:40 Bridal Waltz
Post # 3
Or we could do 4:30 which shortens the gap but also cuts off alot of photography time.. how much time are you girls allowing for photography?
4:40 Bridal Party Entrance
5:20 Group photos
5:30 Family Photos
5:45 FormalS (would leave only 40 mins? for photography that cost $3000 )
6:25 Bride and groom enter
Post # 4
How would you feel about a first look? by doing pics before wedding you would virtually eliminate the ‘gap’ issue. if you are totally against the idea t
then I would do the canapés and ask if you could get a signature drink or just do red and white winE. if they won’t accommodate you for reasonable cost per person then maybe they could do some fancy non alcoholic drinks ??
Post # 5
I’d do a first look and then do all the family and bridal party photos before the ceremony. I think it’s pretty awkward to make your guests stand around for an hour with nothing to do…
The “recessional/congrats” – are you having a receiving line?
Post # 6
We really didnt want to do a “first look” its not for us.. and as i said there will be canapes and a bar that they are able to purchase drinks from .. a part of me feels like that is enough its only for an hour.. but then i dont know what the “ettiquete” is.
We are only 24 this wedding has cost us so much more than we planned and we just cant extend our budget any further but its our day so we really dont want to compromise the time we have for photography either
Post # 7
@beautifullyboheamian: a first look isn’t for us wither. we actually have an almost identical timeline. we have kept it with the gap based on attending a family wedding. they had a 1.5 hour gap at a wedding where the ceremony and reception were in the same room. people paid cash for drinks for that hour with little problems. just ensure you have plenty of food and warn them of the cash bar for an hour.
The best part about this is people are less inclined to get drunk prior to dinner when it is on their own dime.
Post # 8
@beautifullyboheamian: I don’t think it’s a problem at all.
Most weddings I’ve attended their is usually 1 hour in between and I don’t think it’s a big deal at all.
Post # 9
@beautifullyboheamian: Do you by any chance have two photographers? What if you did some photos before in separate groups – the guys with his groomsmen, and you with your girls – get a bunch of those ones out of the way, so you only have the ones with the two of you, and your family to do after? That way having it at 4:30 would be more do-able..
Post # 10
Can you do all of the photos that don’t have the 2 of you together before the ceremony so you can move your ceremony to 5pm?
Post # 11
@beautifullyboheamian: I think the canapes is fine for then. At most weddings I have been to, the bride and groom missed most of or all of the cocktail hour. That’s fine! Most venues are willing to save a plate of appetizers for the bride and groom. Don’t let your photographer pressure you into having the ceremony too early. But if you really want to be there for cocktail hour, I think it’s fine if it’s cash bar and there are appetizers available. Lately there’s been all this flack for not having a 100% open bar and I personally feel that that is BS. At least my family would never complain about a cash bar. They’re there to see beloved family or friends get married, not for a drinking festival.
Post # 12
@nawella: thank you so much! i had a think about it and i feel that my wedding is smallish and my guests wont judge us on the cash bar for one hour, and once tjey get into the reception they will forget that they had that hour to buy one drink haha
and im a bit old fashioned i dont like the thought of seeing my groom before tue wedding
thankyou for your suggestions! x
Post # 13
@beautifullyboheamian: Your timeline is really similar to mine, and I’m just having the one venue too – if the ceremony is in an outdoor area you could have lawn games or something inbetween? We’re having a rockabilly band at our reception, so we’ve organised a group dance lesson for guests and canapes while we get photos taken.