Can you politely decline someone throwing you a shower?

posted 2 years ago in Parties
Post # 2
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943 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m sure she will run dates by you at some point, so you could bring up your concern about missing the other friend’s shower (I wouldn’t start off by saying how inconvenient it would be, to be safe). With a newborn though, she might prefer not to throw the shower after all.

Post # 3
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1670 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I declined a bunch of party offers – it was easy for me though because they were in my hometown and I don’t live there, so there’s only so much travelling a girl can do. Just thank her for the thoughtful offer and say that on reflection there’s really not time in your schedule for it. Then make plans to have lunch with her or something.

Post # 5
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1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would just call her up and tell her you thought more about the shower and decided you don’t want two. You can give her your reasons which sound completely reaaonable- travel, another event same day, you already have one planned. Or you can just thank her profusely and decline. 

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