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My nights have been terrible all week, as I'm not used to sleeping alone... As a result, today I'm sleepy, have a headache and nausea; too exhausted to workout and I'm craving fatty foods - I don't know why, I'm craving fatty foods, but it's always like that when I'm tired.
I've been good though, I didn't get takeout or cook something unhealthy, I had a leftover turkey sandwich and popcorn..
Can't wait til my man comes back on Sunday!
Does anyone else find it hard to sleep alone?
The only way I can sleep is without my fiance. Seriously. We have separate beds. He is 6'2" so he takes up quite a bit of room, and he is an active sleeper. I get punched when he rolls over. He also sits up and talks and stuff in his dreams, which once included throwing me out of bed to "save me" from the ceiling, which was apparently falling... my hero! 
So, yeah, we have separate beds next to each other in the same room. Only way I get any sleep, and even then, I sometimes kick him out for a night if I haven't been sleeping well because the talking will wake me up.
I hope you get some sleep and feel better!
In a word: yes. I kind of have to. Whenever he deploys, I find it hard to fall asleep at first, but I return to my normal sleep schedule after a week or so. I just tend to go to bed later when he's not around.
I have to from time to time as well. I don't like it, and I don't fall asleep quite as quickly, but it just makes me appreciate all the nights we do have together more.
When my FI isn't home I cannot sleep! It's the worst thing ever and I don't know what to do about it. I can go to bed without him when he's in the apartment and sleep fine. I guess when he's not here I listen to the noises around me and let myself get freaked out.
No, I have a hard time sleeping when he's out of town. The cats don't make up for it, either.
I have an extremely hard time sleeping when my FI isn't home. Normally, I have nightmares about 5 days out of the week, and when I wake up from them I'm terrified. When he isn't here, I'm scared to fall asleep. I don't know why I have bad dreams so often, but it's something I've just come to expect.
When he isn't here, I sleep off and on for a few hours, maybe totaling 4 hours of sleep. Blah. I'm lucky enough that he and I don't spend too many nights apart.
I usually sleep better when my FI isn't here. He tends to move around a lot and steal the covers. I like having the bed to myself every once in a while.
i think if you get used to sleeping without him then its ok. Mine works nights, so we are apart 5 days a week!
How crazy is this--We've NEVER spent a night apart. We've been together just 7 months, but he has spent every night with me since the day we started dating. (Leave your judgements at the door...haha)
We've been engaged almost 6 months... And Im soo worried about the first night that we'll have to be apart. There have been times when he doesnt get home until early in the morning because of work or other things.. and Im always wide awake till he comes in the door.
Who knows how it will be on down the line... I do not think we could ever resort to having two beds though!! :)
Hahaha, Amaryllis, that story cracked me...I'm sorry, it must be terrible, but I had to laugh at that. One night something similar, but not nearly as awful, happened to me. FI was having a dream about fighting off some gang or something and punched me right in the face in his sleep. Hard. I was okay, but kind of shocked haha.
I can usually sleep okay without FI. We currently cram ourselves into a twin bed every night (dorm lifein' it at the moment, sigh, but not for long), and that makes it hard to get comfortable. Plus he is a really spastic mover when he sleeps and his sudden movements often wake me up. Plus we inevitably get stuck in some uncomfortable positions throughout the night just because the bed is so small. And what he does to the covers every night is just ridiculous (I NEVER wake up to find the flat sheet on the bed, for example). But still, I love to cuddle with him at night so much that it's hard to fall asleep without him there (though I do sleep more soundly when he's not there just because there's more room). And FI CANNOT sleep without me. Sometimes he goes back to his own room to sleep if I'm up late working and then an hour and a half later I get this pathetic call from him telling me he can't fall asleep and he's wondering if he can come over and sleep with the light on, heh. When we have a bigger bed in a few months, I am going to be so psyched. I think I will sleep much more soundly then.
I sleep better without him there. Maybe it's because I was single for like 5 years before we met and I just got used to my sleeping ways. When he's not there I can take up the whole bed. And the cat has plenty of room so he doesn't end up on my face!
I'm getting better at it since my husband has to travel for work a lot. I used to go to bed early in the morning and slept most of the day since I was afraid to be asleep at night when he wasn't here.
My sleep is 100% uneffectedby whether or not FI is around. But I'm a girl who needs her shut-eye. I can fall asleep on city transit and pretty much anywhere else you can name.
i sleep much better with him there. it relaxes me.
I like my space. It has nothing to do with whether FI is there or not. I hated our full bed and could barely share it with him but I bought a king size for our new apartment and now I sleep like a dream with him in it and without.
@MichelleMyBell - heh, I'm totally the same. My FI actually accuses me of cheating on him with "Mr. Sleep". Yeah, we're dorks.
When he's out of town for work I'm usually okay the first or second night, when it's longer than that though then I start having trouble. At first I'm just delighted to have the bed to myself, but then it gets boring pretty fast.
I actually can sleep when my hubby is away and not in the house BUT if he is in the house and not in bed, my brain will not let me sleep no matter what I do. I find this to be quite strange.
@ Amaryllis I thought I was the only one!!! We CAN NOT sleep together..I am a very active sleeper and so is he! its is a hott mess!
Does it ever worry you that in the long run it will affect your relationship? I am always so worried about that! I never want something like that to come between us!
I don't sleep well if he's not at least in the house. I sleep much better when he's in the bed. A lot of times I've fallen asleep before comes home from work, so he watches TV then he falls asleep on the couch and it drives me nuts! Because on those nights I roll over and when he's not there I panic! I'm a worrier :)
yeah my hubby kicks a lot, if I'm really tired I dont mind, if I'm awake thinking about stuff I have to sleep on the couch so its plus minus
I agree. My husband has been gone all week on business and I'm an exhausted mess. On top of it, my DOG doesn't sleep well without him and has been waking up howling (with bad doggie dreams?) several nights this week. Ugh. I also always crave fatty foods when I am tired; luckily I have an appointment with my trainer tonight so I'll at least get a work out in to balance it out!
I hope you sleep better and have sweeter dreams tonight!
Hmm, let's see:
1) i get the queen bed to myself (a queen is not THAT big, ya know?)
2) i get to sleep in the middle
3) i get to be the one who hogs all the covers instead of waking up too hot or too cold
4) i can turn/kick/punch without being smacked in return. Or pushed away for "hey, you're taking up my side"
5) my kitties can sleep with me
6) i can sleep in whatever clothes I want without being, er, harassed, haha. and wear a sexy face mask if i want =]
Yeah, i sleep just fine without him there. We don't touch when we sleep anyways and whenever i get a bad night's sleep, it's because he tosses, turns, can't sleep, gets up, etc. Bugs me because i have to go to work in the morning and he gets to sleep in AND i'm a lighter sleeper, but i'm getting used to it.
Miss Bella -- We make a point to have together time before we go to sleep, so I go snuggle with him in his bed or vice versa to kind of make up for that distance. I don't really think it's too big a deal.
@amaryllis-So do we! When I tell my friends they look at me like I am nuts! But hey we need to be able to sleep! It just makes me so releived that FI and I are not the only ones with this problem!!!
I find it harder to fall asleep when he isn't there, but I stay asleep longer when he isn't.
Like Amarylis - My fiance is very tall. He needs a lot of room, he tosses and turns a lot AND he snores! It's lonely, but I probably sleep a little better w/o him there.
I prefer him there, but really enjoy when he's out of town (for sleeping) b/c I prefer to sleep sideways! Diagonal! Wherever the pillow is coldest! Sometimes i like to wrap up in a cocoon. I get way better sleep when i am by myself. When we move, we are going to get a king bed (not that we've discussed it, but it's a definite) b/c I would like to have him there AND sleep crazy ways, without any pesky feet touching me or the cats taking up too much room. He's away for work soon and i'm looking forward to cooking meals he doesn't like, sleeping crazy, and keeping odd hours.
I have never been a big bed sharer, really. In college, I really didn't have boyfriends so much, but if I did, they were banned from my room. I didn't want to share or have icky boy germs in my bedroom, hahaha. ONE time i let my bf stay over - ONE. that was enough.
I'm in the category of not being able to sleep with out my FI. He works nights and is away from the house 4 nights a week. When I fall asleep (if i fall asleep) I wake up shortly after from a bad dream or thinking I heard something. I usually only get a couple of house of sleep a night. It has really affected my functioning. I am tired all the time, I eat fatty foods also, and can’t seem to drag myself off the couch when I get home from work. I am kind of in an awkward spot however, because he only works 4 nights a week that puts him in the bed about 1/2 the time. I have gotten to a point where I cant sleep without him and I cant sleep with him! My body just gets used to him being gone then he is back and I cant get used to that either! It’s so exhausting!
I do have some tips for you, that I have started to realize work somewhat. After about the second night I am usually exhausted enough to fall asleep on the couch. If I can allow myself to do that, I am usually out of it enough to drag myself to bed around midnight and get a few good hours of sleep, but if I go to bed just tired but not fully asleep I will lay awake all night. I have got a night light (soo childish, I know) and put it in the hallway, just so there is enough light when I do wake up from a bad dream that I can come to and see around me with out freaking out! I hope this helps!
It's hard the first few weeks, but I got used to it later on. I still miss him terribly when he's not laying next to me, but I don't go to sleep as sad as before.
We have a king size bed and he's a very light sleeper, so we don't touch during the night. So it's not about a lack of snuggling (although I do miss that, too)
I think maybe it's because I'm alone in the house, I may be more "aware" of sounds and stuff; I dunno..
There are only a few times when I have to sleep without him and they can be tough. I don't really mind if I'm back at home with my family but if it's just me in our condo I sleep really lightly. I can fully relax when he's there and I feel much safer. Of course sometimes it can get annoying with him snoring and complaining I hog the covers ; ) but other than that it's great. Lately I've been getting really bad nightmares when I'm not sleeping with him.
I'm glad I saw this topic...now. My husband had a sleep test on Saturday night and into Sunday morning. I went to my parent's home to feed the pets. I COULD NOT go to sleep! I tried and tried. Finally at 3 am, I forced myself to go to bed. I can only sleep without my husband if I know he's in the other room watching tv or something. If I'm here by myself, then no.
I used to get anxious when the FI was gone and would wake up at the slightest noises. Then he enrolled me in the martial arts dojo he teaches at and also taught me how to fire his gun which we keep loaded in the dresser next to our bed (we don't have any kids, so it works for us). Now that I am comfortable using a firearm and/or taking people down with target focused training I sleep like a rock!
Maybe it is a safety thing? Even a taser next to the bed might help with the sleeping problems.
I sleep better without him, actually. He takes up too much room on the bed. Plus, whenever he's away, I bring the dog into bed with me, so it's not like I'm alone.
My guy works 1st/2nd shift (changes daily) and I work 3rd so I can definately sleep when he's not home - but I definately sleep better when he's home.
I have issues sleeping in general. When I go down I go down. When he's not home it's 60 times harder to fall asleep than when he is here. I do toss and turn and am constantly feeling for him and trying to wrap myself around him when he's not here. I just sleep better entangled. in him.
I'm sure I can, but we have never really slept without each other ever since we've lived with each other. So I'm going to say no, probably not!
I also have a hard time falling asleep (usually resort to reading or Netflixing myself to sleep) without him but once I do I sleep harder. It's not worth the trade off though. I'm much more rested and happy after sleeping with him than when I'm alone.
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