(Closed) Can you use your shower gifts before you are married?

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: Will you / did you use your shower gifts before you were actually married?
    Yes - because people gave it to me and they wanted me to use it : (75 votes)
    75 %
    Yes - because I needed the space : (5 votes)
    5 %
    No - because it is bad luck to do so : (5 votes)
    5 %
    No - because we need to keep them pristine in case we don't get married and have to return them : (9 votes)
    9 %
    Other - please explain : (6 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I think it’s crazy that there is actually a rule saying you can’t use a gift given to you because you aren’t married. I used everything the second I had it. I didn’t wait. My thought was, how will anyone know that you used it? And even if they did, that’s why they bought it for you! Go for it!

    Post # 4
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    3078 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Dumbest rule ever!  I used some of our stuff before the wedding.

    Post # 5
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    @Birdee106:  +1, I think people used to not use them until married because they hadn’t moved in together yet!

     

    I took my stuff straight home and put it to work!

    Post # 6
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    701 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I think you should be able to use them whenever you get them. We didn’t use anything  before because we didn’t live together and wanted everything new to use after the wedding. 

    Post # 7
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    514 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’m not using mine until we are married, but we are also going to be moving a few weeks after we have our shower, so its just not practical to open more things. I know that you aren’t supposed to open them because if you don’t get married you have to return them…kind of silly, but cancelled weddings do happen!

    Post # 8
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I voted other because we’re not using our gifts just yet but for a completely different reason.  We are planning to have a huge garage sale after the wedding & I will be clearing all of the old to make room for the new.  I know I’ll be getting more gifts at the wedding so I figured I would just do a big sweep after everything is said and done. Plus, I don’t have the time to deal with it now so I just stacked all of my gifts in the spare room for now.

    If you want to use your gifts, I say go for it!!

    Post # 9
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @jivet:  Ummm no that rule is so stupid!!!! I wish I could use all the amazing stuff I got at my shower but it’s all in storage until we get our own house 🙁 

    Post # 10
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

    I got my Shark vacuum, flatware and hand mixer and I used them that day! I needed them so bad!!!

    Who’s going to know anyway?

    Post # 11
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    242 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    we have a pile of stuff we’ve gotten and haven’t started using bc this rule is always in the back of our head. but, if you guys say its a go – then when i get home from work i’m unpacking those presents! 

    Post # 12
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    We waited. I hold with tradition. Plus, didn’t anyway see Sex and the City the movie? Shit happens and no one thinks it will happen to them, but it happens to someone… Best to be safe and wait. Plus, it is very excited to get home from the honeymoon and incorporate all the neww stuff into the household, and then you only have to do it once. If you start using stuff right way and giving it places, etc, what if you realize you need to reorganize it all or that you got two things that serve the same function but like the one you got at the wedding better than the one you got at the shower but you’ve already opened the shower one?

    Post # 14
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Other. We got some as Christmas presents and opened the tupperware because I was tired of using my broke ass Walmart containers. Everything else is still in the box, patiently waiting and silently hoping that we get a house. We’ll probably just unpack it and get rid of the old stuff after the wedding, though.

    Post # 15
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Lol how are they going to know if you did or didn’t use it? I started using my stuff right away!

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I don’t think you should use it until after the wedding since if, god forbid, something happens and the wedding is called off, the presents should be returned.

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