- 6 years ago
Salams and hello,
Alhumdulilah, I’m engaged to a wonderful man and planning our wedding for late summer, 2012. I’m Canadian and have grown up dreaming of a white dress wedding and he is Pakistani though raised in in the UAE and Canada.
We’re trying to decide how to incorporate all of our wedding traditions in to one big celebration, without breaking the bank.
I want to walk down an aisle, get married/do nikkah and then have the reception, all on the same day. His tradition would be to have a 3 day affair- mehndi (day1), nikkah (signing marriage contract with dinner- day 2) and reception (day 3). I want to wear a white wedding dress as well as a red lengha to fulfill both bridal looks! He said that it is necessary to have the reception the day after the nikkah (ie after consumation of the marriage).
Though his 3 day tradition sounds like fun, I don’t think it is financially feasible since at this point, it looks like he and I are funding the entire thing ourselves.
I want to wear the lengha for one whole day and the white dress for one whole day since hair and makeup will be so different for both outfits Also, I don’t want to have to share two outfits on one day… it’s the only time I’m ever going to wear either outfit! I think it would be best to walk down the aisle in the white dress so that my family gets some semblance to a western wedding (i’m their only daughter). The only issue is that my dress will be 3/4 lace sleeved (very similar to Kate Middleton, inA). My hair will be showing through the sheer veil. Can we do the nikkah even though my hair and some skin will be showing? I don’t want to do the nikkah in a mosque because I don’t want the guests to be gender separated (it would freak out my family and I want to show the easiest to understand, positive attributes of Islam to them).
How have other intercultural couples managed to ensure their wedding is halal, as well as staying true to both cultures?