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I was curious if any Brides or Ex-Brides had any Canceled Wedding Stories to share?
Thought it might be interesting to learn & hear about, as well as give a few nervous Brides some needed support or motivation.
I met a soon to be BRIDE at a coffee house a few days ago and she sounded very unhappy. Not even knowing me she admitted that she didn't think she was marrying the one but their family and friends were already so involved and everything was booked that she didn't want to look bad to everyone and cancel her wedding.She is actually going through with the wedding and marrying someone she isn't THAT content with just to please EVERYONE ELSE and not look like she failed at finding love. This really touched me and got me thinking... are there a lot of brides out there that truly feel this way and still go through with the wedding?! This is pretty sad and eye opening. I , myself could never live with myself...it's such a life changing experience.
I had another *single* girlfriend tell me... she worries more about who she has kids with than who she ends up marrying because she figures she can just divorce a guy pretty easy if she ends up making a mistake. I'm curious to hear your stoires and opinions BRIDES! 
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Sorry this is kind of long...but cancelling a wedding isn't a decision made lightly...
My ex-fiancé and I cancelled our wedding this past March. We were engaged in Aug 2008 and had planned to be married in August 2010. At the time of our engagement we had been together for 5 years, living together for 3 and had even moved overseas together for his job. We had booked all our vendors, my gown was hanging in my parents' closet and STDs had been sent.
So what happened? We had a big fight one day and the next day we woke up and he told me he wasn't sure if he wanted to be with me. I was shocked and completely taken off guard. I had been so happy and the last thing I thought he would say to me was that. Apparently he had been thinking about it for some time and the wedding was really stressing him out and he just wasn't sure what he wanted anymore.
We talked a lot, we went to see a counsellor, and eventually we mutually decided to end our engagement. It was pretty awful yet somehow not as terrible as I thought it would be. I immediately contacted all my closest friends and family to tell them about our decision. He waited to contact his family and friends for a few days. We decided to stay together. We both wanted to work things out.
It was really hard in the first few months after calling off the engagement. Many of our friends were recently married or were getting engaged so it was incredibly difficult to be excited and happy for them when my dream had been cancelled. I brought it up a lot and it caused a lot of tension in our relationship. Also, many people couldn't understand what we were doing. Why would we stay together after calling of our engagement? To be totally honest I didn't understand it myself. Our counsellor summed it up nicely though: love and relationships aren't always black or white, there are many shades of grey.
We decided to end our relationship this past June. We tried to move forward and get passed all that had happened but it didn't work. He was still as confused as ever and a part of me resented him for proposing to me and then taking it back.
What would have been our wedding date has now come and gone. The actual day was sad but I had lots of support from family and friends. Oddly enough once it was over I felt much more at peace with everything. I was sad that we hadn't gotten married but the overwhelming feeling was one of relief that we hadn't gone through with something that could have ended very badly. Breaking up has been pretty horrific but I can't help but think that getting divorced would be that much worse. I am also so grateful to him for speaking up when he did. It would have been so easy to keep going along as we were, especially as everything was booked and payments made. I'm so glad that he was strong enough to tell me how he felt.
All this to say that cancelling a wedding is definitely not easy but it isn't the end of the world either (though it certainly feels that way initially). I have no idea what the future holds for me or him, but I do know that we were not meant to be married in August 2010 and I can't help but think that had we gone through with it, we would have become yet another divorce statistic.
My friend very agnostic (or atheist, dont remember what he believed) met this very conservative muslim girl in Afganastan. She worked for the US government as an interpreter. They moved back to the US together after my friends stay in the army and planned a wedding. We were very happy for them and my friend respected all of her believes including not having sex until marriage, but we were all a little hesitant because he hates organized religion and is very vocal about this. But he loved her and he said that they could make it work. Well she called off the wedding a week before because she decided she wanted to marry someone that at least believed in God and her parents were very against this marriage.
Another cancelled wedding I know of has to do with a pre nup. The parents wanted the prenup since they were paying for the wedding and a lot of other stuff. She wouldnt sign it and she cancelled the wedding and kept all the deposits.
My wedding cant get cancelled bc I am already married. Shhh it is a secret, only my immediate family knows. Marriage is wonderful and hard work too, but worth it. I would defientely recommend it. Just make sure you are marrying the right person.
Amazing story Girlabroud!!! Thank you for sharing. Even though it is a sad story it really does have a super positive and motivating ending. Everything really does happen for a reason...and the best is yet to come :)
Crazy stories gilbra444! Interesting!
I have a story.
My step sister was dating this guy for a long time, they even lived together in his parents basement. They got engaged after about a year. I could tell she wasn't happy in the relationship, and I don't think he was at all either, but they went through with it anyway. They were divorced about a month and a half later.
She said afterwards that it was exactly what others have said: the family pressure and not wanting to let everyone down. Everything was booked and invites were already sent. She said she felt like the whole thing was just flying out of control and there wasn't anything she could do to stop it.
Happy ending to the story though: she's now married to a great guy and has two adorable kids.
My sister broke off her engagement about 3 months after becoming engaged over christmas a few years ago. She was always a bit of a "wild child" and her fiance was very quiet, reserved, and managed several name-brand pharmacy stores in their area. They both enjoyed going out, but I think she realized that "real life" would set in after they were married and it wouldn't be about going out all the time. She didn't want to be a typical homebody. She started hanging out with some new friends at work and found herself in some pretty risky situations. After one particular evening of leaving a male co-worker's house late at night after drinking, she got into a wreck and realized she was just acting out of her fear of being "typical" and "committed". She broke off the engagement and said, "He was a nice guy, just not the nice guy for me." She moved away, and from what I gather she's pretty happy now. Some people just aren't the commitment type, I guess.
@Girlabroad: thanks for sharing your wisdom with us. Let us know if you need to lean on us!
@Girlabroad: wow - you are a strong woman - you can tell by your writing! Good for you for doing whats best for YOU...Best wishes for you for in the future! Im sure happiness in whichever shape or form will come your way!
@Layla26: Thanks for that but I honestly think most women would be just as strong...you never know how much you can deal with until you're faced with it.
That being said, I think I may be fooling you a little...until about a week ago I cried every day - not about the wedding but about the end of my relationship and the end of the life I knew (quitting my job, moving back home from overseas and into my old bedroom, etc...).
Breaking up with the man I loved put a lot of things in perspective for me. Cancelling the wedding seemed like such a big deal at the time but I knew I could deal with it because I still had him by my side. When our relationship ended I realised that as much as I had cared about the wedding it didn't matter in the grand scheme of things. It still hurts a lot and I'm sure I still have lots of unshed tears to come, but I do know that life goes on and that there are many great days ahead of me.
Girlaboad- My story is very similar to yours, so I just want to tell you it happened for a reason. I am now married to an amazing man that I never ever thought I would meet after my broken engagement.
My Ex and I dated all through college, 4 years after we started dating. I was beyond excited, he at the time was beyond excited. We had set a wedding for a year and half after so we could save for a house. My parents put a deposit down on the reception and band. I went and ordered my dress. About 4 months after we got engaged, we had a big fight, I had been feeling for the last month or so that he was acting distant, so I called him out on it and he got really defensivie. What I then found out over 2 years later AFTER this was that he had met someone. After the fight, he became a total jerk to me, he would't call me back, he sometimes wouldn't call me at all. He was never one for going out but I would find out from friends that he was going out all the time. We were still engaged, but I had NO idea what was going on. I cried and cried, I lost over 20 pounds, my family was constantly asking me what was going on, when I could get a hold of him he just say I don't know, I can't talk about this now. I would drive to his house and wait for him to only tell me he couldn't deal with it. After 3 months of this, I finally gave him the ring back and told my parents to try and get their deposit back, I had to return and cancell everything, I was mortified. As soon as I gave him the ring back, he was begging for me to stay with him and not leave him. I was so hurt and angry I couldn't even talk to him, a month later he showed up at my doorstep, had called my parents to arrange a "meeting" that night he begged for everyone's forgiveness saying that he just got scared and cold feet. My parents forgave him but told him he should have just said that to begin with instead of doing what he did to me, and he swore up and down he was sorry. We hashed it out for a few days, and I agreed to get back together. He said we would get back together and in a few months get back engaged, we just had to settle back into "US". 1 and half later we never got back engaged, I would constantly bring it up which only caused fights and tenison, he would just say he was confused and not ready. My entire family had no idea what was going on, and like Girlabroad either did I. I became so resentful and angry I just knew he wasn't the one for me, and honestly something in my gut told me there was somethign really wrong with our situation. I finally got the courage to break it off, he tried beggging me, talking to my family again. I was so done with him. I never thought I would find love again. I then found out 2 months later after I broke it off that he had been seeing a girl since the days of us getting engaged. I guess he met her a few months after we got engaged ( she was 18 at the time ) I felt the hurt all over again, I was now living alone, all my friends were getting married and engaged and I was simply heartbroken, and so embarrassed. 6 months later though, I met my true love and a REAL man, and I got to really feel what it was like to be with your soul mate. Over 6 years of being with someone didn't give me that, I knew if we ever did get married we would be divorced.
So I say this to Girlaboard, I know it still hurts but you will def find that one true love and the person you are MEANT to be with.
My friend called her wedding off the day we were due to go the bridal shop for her to try on her dress after the alterations had been done. Her fiance had lied to her about money. It turned out he was actually bankrupt. Things had come to a head earlier that year and she told him then if there's anything more I need to know then tell me, otherwise if you're not telling the truth i'm out of here. He told her there wasn't, but there obviously was. She found out through his sister when she went to say with her, which he didn't want her to - surprise. She had wondered why they couldn't get a mortgage when they both earn good money. Nearly a year later, she's happy being single and bought her own house.
These are all such inspiring stories. You have all shown such strength. I know these decisions were not easy to make.
My sister was engaged to someone she'd known since high school, but had only started dating towards the end of university. She, her FI (Ben) and another guy (Steve) were all best friends, and hung out a lot. Ben was like another brother to me.
She broke it off about 8 months onto the engagement for many reasons, mainly because she felt more like his mother than his 'lover', and was annoyed that she felt that she had to push him to be more motivated in life. Also, and here's the kicker... she was in love with Steve.
This caused a HUGE divide among all of their mutual friends, some backing her up for being true to her feelings, and others spewing hate at her for hurting Ben.
My friend's sister even started an argument with me, saying that what my sister did was wrong. I stared in disbelief at this girl, who had NO idea about the intricacies of my sister's relationship, and how she could possibly make a judgement call like that. If she had seen my sister and how depressed she was after breaking up with Ben, crying for days and weeks on end about how she'd hurt not only Ben but his entire family, she would know that this was the hardest decision in the world.
In the end, it worked out for the best. Ben is now married with a new baby, and my sister is now married to Steve :)
It does all happen for a reason.
My best female friend ended an engagement our senior year of college. She loved her fiance, but their relationship had some deep structural problems. It was a really difficult time for her, but now she's happilly married to a man who treats her well and supports her in every possible way.
@Girlabroad:I couldnt agree more - and i have recently experienced realizing you dont know what you can handle until you are hit with it. I was just complimenting you on your strength and classiness at how you handled your situation and told your story.
No shame in crying - its how you overcame your struggle and how you handled it - kuddos to you! :)
I don't have any personal stories but I've enjoyed reading the ones other have posted! Thanks for all the inspiration, ladies.
My Uncle cancelled his wedding 48 hours before!
I was suppose to be a bridesmaid and that summer (5 years ago) was interning and living in upstate NY. The wedding was going to be in W. Mass. My entire family had already travelled very far and was already in town for the wedding when it got called off. My uncle and his ex -fiance had recently purchased a home and were living there.
To this day nobody besides them know the details for the break up. They refused to tell anybody anything - besides they called it off before rather than make a mistake.
Also to this day - they still own that house together! They bought it at the very worst time ie. house prices HIGH, and now can't get rid of it. My uncle travels about 80% of the time so she still lives there when he's away! The 20% of the time he is home she stays at her mom's. I have no clue how that arrangment is working out!
I'm really glad this thread was started. Reading these stories make me feel less alone. I realize that it's a horrible thing to have to cancel a wedding/call off an engagement, but I was so embarassed for quite a while to come back to WeddingBee.
I myself have been engaged twice. Both times, the engagement was called off before a wedding date was even set. I won't go into depth, but the second engagement was much harder to get out of, as I feared what everyone would think. I thought, "What's wrong with me? Why can't I make these relationships work?". My second engagement ended this past January, and although it was amazingly tough and very complicated, I look back and realize I am no longer the same woman. I'm stronger for knowing what is right for me, and holding my head up, no matter how embarassing it was. The relationship had become very controlling and emotionally abusive, and yet I had still purchased a gown and started wedding planning? I will never allow myself to be in that situation again.
After 10 months of focusing on myself, rebuilding my social life, and working on my career, I'm a much stronger person, and am looking forward to dating again. Calling off two engagements shattered my heart, but I haven't lost faith. I've just started seeing a great guy a few months ago, but I'm in no rush to get engaged. I'm taking my time and making sure everything is right this time around. If it works, it works. If not, I know I will survive.
My wedding has recently been canceled. The story is a bit too long to post but you can see my blog for the details.
Thank you ladies for sharing these stories. I feel very alone. Its hard.
I have a sister who married quickly to someone who became abusive...and was showing serious signs beforehand...she went thru with the wedding I believe because she didnt want to face calling it off.
i also have a friend who had her wedding in Australia and myself and her family and a few other friends travelled from US and Canada to attend. six months later they were separated as she "realized" she never wanted to get married.
sad stories, but both i believe would have been better off had they cancelled their wedding and not gone through with it.
i have another friend who recently cancelled her wedding. she was in shock and saddended when she uncovered something disturbing about her fiance 2 months before the wedding. but she bounced back pretty quick and is already dating....she is so happy she found out before the wedding,
last story, i have a friend who has a desitnation wedding coming up in 6 months and she is with someone who she has admitted to me in the past she is not in love with but doesnt think she can do better...its sad because i know she can if she left, but now that the wedding is booked and their families have booked their plane tickets, i am positive she wont cancel because of having to face everyone else that would be upset by.
my opinion....MUCH better to cancel before and deal with the immediate drama of having to face everyone rather than having to get divorced later or be stuck in an unhappy marriage.
I feel so sad reading the first post about the bride in the coffee shop because I think I am in the same position. I recently became engaged to a wonderful man and am now feeling completely terrified as I am not sure about marrying him. We have been together for such a long time (5 years and living together for 3 years) but I have recently become afraid that he is more like my friend than someone I can marry. He is such a huge part of my life and our families are so close that I have been pushing all doubts to the back of mind but I know this isn't fair for him. He deserves to be engaged to someone who is really excited and I just wish I could wake up tomorrow and be that person. I feel so alone and just want to cry all the time. I am so scared of hurting such a wonderful man and potentially making the biggest mistake of my life. I can't believe this is happening - I can't speak to anyone for fear of disappointing them. Any advice would be so appreciated.
@Elaine16: Wow I'm so sorry you are going through all of this. How long have you been feeling this way? I hope some other bees have some words of wisdom for you.
I guess all I can say is, if you feel like you shouldn't be getting married, you should explore this more. I think we've learned from these stories that backing out of a wedding can be tough but will make you stronger in the long run.
Wow, I guess it's really obvious reading these stories that it's much 'easier' to go through with the wedding than to have the strength to call it off.
I don't know anyone close to me who has done this, but a friend of my cousin had her wedding called off about 1 month before. It was a big deal, my cousin was to be a BM and the couple had been together for a long time, it was going to be a big wedding. They were also totally silent about the reason why, but I know it was HIS decision because he actually paid her family back for all the deposits! After all that they still dated for like a year before finally breaking up.
Oh and I just remembered an old coworker who called off her engagement like 1 week before the wedding. It was a shocking scandal, it took a while before the real story came out. She was engaged to a great guy and talked all the time about her wedding and mysteriously 1 week before came into work not wearing her ring and rumor spread quickly it was off. I found out a few months later SHE had actually been seeing someone else almost the whole time, got caught by her FI and moved out of their apartment all in one weekend. Last I heard she had moved overseas to be with the new guy, but that was years ago.
@Elaine16: Are we the same person? Seriously, have been dating my FI since college (almost 5 years) and have been living together for 1.5 years (not counting the years in the dorms!). I didn't worry about those things until he proposed, and now I am plagued with fears that maybe we're more like roommates, and maybe I don't love him the right way, etc. If you haven't done so already, check out ConsciousWeddings.com or ConsciousTransitions.com. It may have you assess whether or not what you're feeling is normal, or if it's something more. Good luck!
@Elaine16: I'm so sorry that you're feeling this way. I can't imagine how painful and scary it must be to be going through all this, especially when you feel as though you can't confide in anyone. As someone who's been in the opposite position I can't relate to how you're feeling but I can honestly and truly say that I am genuinely grateful to my ex for telling me how he felt before we went through with a wedding.
I'm not going to lie and say that the initial conversation was pleasant. In fact I had a minor breakdown about it because it seemed so out of the blue. The following months were also difficult, but I came to see that many of his concerns were valid and they were things that I had been thinking about as well but had chosen to ignore. You never know, your FI may be questioning certain things as well, though that's obviously not something that's nice to think about.
It's completely natural not to want to hurt someone you love but are you actually being fair to him? Would you want to marry someone who was unsure about his love for you? More importantly, are you being fair to yourself? You deserve to be happy and secure and sure of your feelings.
Being engaged and planning a wedding can be an amazing time in a relationship but it can also be incredibly stressful. Sometimes you have to step outside of the engagement and consider your relationship. Are you unhappy because of the increased stress? Or is this a sign of deeper problems that won't go away after the wedding? It may sound crazy, but talking to your FI might actually help you clarify your feelings. Maybe something's amiss in your relationship but maybe it's something you can get back. On the other hand, maybe it's not meant to be.
It's hard and painful for all parties involved but going through with a wedding just to keep everyone happy isn't the solution. Ultimately you have to be true to yourself. I am still incredibly sad that my engagement was called off but I have thanked my ex on several occassions for being honest with me. I would much rather have dealt with that then experienced the pain of divorce.
I've been reading this thread for a while. I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who shared. I cannot imagine how difficult this was/is for you. You are all brave and strong women. Best of luck with everything.
Years ago I was decorating the church for my wedding the next day. I had been having qualms and not feeling right about it for a week or so. I tried to talk to my mother and she wouldn't discuss cancelling the wedding. Wouldn't hear any such nonense. I just knew in my gut I shouldn't go through with it. But I was young, 19 and getting ready to leave for the Army. I had joined at same time as my then fiance. Mom and I had a huge blowup that night and again the next morning. One of my aunts tried to talk to her. I went through with the wedding because of my parents. The whole time I was walking down the aisle I kept looking off to the front exit door from the church auditorium. There was one of those EXIT signs that is lit up over it and I kept looking at it, wishing I had the guts to actually walk out that door. But I didn't. Three years later and and one son, we divorced. I have my son. We were too young to have gotten married. You need time to grow and experience the world before getting married. For those of you that are young and having doubts...be stronger than I was. I work with a girl that is a high school senior. She is Bosnian and from what she tells me, they marry young. She is getting married this summer as soon as she graduates. He is 7 years older and wants babies right away. I have tried to tell her to wait. She wants to but is worried about her parents.
I think you have to listen to your heart! And I mean really listen!! I didn't -- and ended up divorced after 13 long years of being married to the wrong man. Finally had the courage to admit to myself how unhappy I was and made some major life changes. Now I am engaged to the RIGHT person and I am so happy! My point is that just as you know you have met the right person, sometimes you know when it is the wrong person and you just don't listen to your heart because it is too scary to let go. It's even scarier when you have kids/a house/etc.
Best wishes to everyone and happy holidays!
My brother was engaged and planning his wedding to a lady some 15+ years ago and he was really happy. She called off the wedding citing that she wasn't ready to be married yet. I remember my brother being absolutely crushed and I remember wanting to punch the lady in the face for how much she hurt my brother, especially when 6 months after calling off the engagement, she sent my brother an invite.... to her wedding to another man!! I couldn't believe the gall of this lady to call off the engagement to my brother by saying she wasn't ready and then sending him an invite to her wedding to another man!
In the end, I couldn't be happier that she called it off. None of the family was really happy with his choice in her (he was happy at the time though so we all just sucked it up) because she seemed cold and distant to the rest of the family. A couple of years after that, he met his wife! She's a truely wonderful lady and they've been happily married now for almost 10 years!
A friend of mine met a man through the internet and fell in love with him quickly. They got married within about 6 months of meeting each other. I found out from her after the wedding that she'd seriously considered calling it off before the wedding because she'd found out that her guy had been lying to her. He had told her he had no baggage, but in reality he had a son from a previous marriage that somehow he'd kept from her completely! She decided to go through with the wedding and she got pregnant right away. Shortly after she gave birth, she found out that there was yet another child that her hubby was responsible for that he'd again hidden from her AND that there was another lady that he was having an affair with! Needless to say, she divorced him. Last I heard, he had 4-5 children from different ladies that he was paying child support for.
In the end, she has a beautiful daughter from it, but went through a tough divorce and rough patch after.
I called off my wedding to my DH about 5-6 yrs ago because I wasn't ready. I was barely out of a divorce from an abuser. DH took it as well as anyone could & put no pressure on me.
We finally got it done 11/27/10.
at my first wedding I remember telling my MOH- "Im marrying Mr. Half Right" sigh- well I hung in there 27 years, so half right wasnt' so bad. But now, I know how RIGHT feels. I think the best word is "effortless" doesnt mean we dont fight, have issues, squabble, but at the end of the day being with him is "effortless"
I hear ya! It is so pleasant being drama/trauma free in my marriage.
Want drama, go see a movie.
My ex was all about chaos & drama. Ugh, good riddance.
Ex-FI, and I had been dating for close to 9 years when he proposed last Christmas Eve, and we had been living together for about 7½ of those. We are also proud parents to a gorgeous 6-year-old girl.. we were set to marry in June 2011.
Anyway, he called off our engagement in May. A lot of it was due to the stress of me not being able to find a job with this economy, and trying to save for the wedding. At the time, we were also looking to purchase our first home, so I can see why he sort of freaked out. On top of that, however, he was/is never open with his feelings/emotions, and it turns out he had been hiding his unhappiness for a while.
We're still very civil with each other, and hopeful that we can work things out in the long-run, but we still have a lot to work through--his unhappiness, mostly. Even when he called off the engagement, he said that he wasn't sure of the source.. and, 7 months later, I still haven't seen a change. If anything, he's become more depressed, telling me, and DD that he's lonely, etc..
About 5 years ago my brother was engaged to a single mom. He moved across the country to a poor economy (no jobs) just to show her he was committed to making the situation work. Eventually though because of finacial issues he had to move back "home." She decided to move across the country for him, and when they moved in together he proposed to her.
He took on 2 part time jobs in addition to his full time job just to support them (while she stayed at home with her daughter), but they were often broke & struggling which caused a lot of stress between them. She got pregnant in August, but by late October had lost the baby ("DNC"--sp?). This caused them a lot of heartache & further stress (obviously).
She eventually called off the engagement (long before much money was spent or a date was set), because even though she thought he was an awesome guy, a FANTASTIC dad (that part was really hard for her because my brother totally stepped up and accepted her 18month old as his own, which is something the bio dad never did) and a really really good friend, she felt that their life goals, religious views (amongst other things) and lifestyles were too different to reconcile.
It could have also come from the experience of living together, but those are details I was not privvy to.
It sucked at the time, for both of them, but sometimes you cant help it. A year and a half later she married a guy she had gone to college with(but not previously dated), and this spring my brother is expecting a baby with his girlfriend of 2+years.
Things happen for a reason.
I canceled a wedding in June 2009 that was set in September 2009. I was engaged to a guy I had been with for 6 years (through the last year of high school and through college). I always felt a little iffy about him, but I felt trapped.
He did us both a favor and became a nut. Not only did he become abusive out of NOWHERE, but he cheated on me. That made it easy to see he was the wrong guy. Called it off, which was SO hard, I cried for a couple weeks, stopped eating for a while, pulled up my boot straps and moved on. Everyone was involved, everything was chosen and booked. The invitations hadn't gone out yet thank goodness but that was the last thing we had to do.
I was so depressed I thought I would never meet the right guy, so I went on eharmony to broaden my pool and in October 2009 I met THE ONE! He is perfect for me and makes me so ridiculously happy. We are now getting married March 19 2011. Fastest turn around in my life EVER! And I couldn't be happier.
I've called off an engagement, but not a wedding. I guess I'm one of those girls who would probably go through with it once everything was paid, unless I had a VERY good reason not to. :S
That was me 4 years ago. The sooner you end it the better. Its terrifying and hard becasue you don't want to hurt anyone, but in the end you have to put yourself first and you cannot hurt yourself by marring someone you don't want to. You hurt him too when you do that. I had m A-ha moment when I was venting to a friend and said, "There is always divorce."
And she's like. "You can't start a marriage with that." It sucked a lot and created awkward situations, but it would have been way worse if I married him. I felt bad when we got engaged and I knew that when my friend who was planning a marriage who I called after we got engaged, I was her MOH, and she asked if I feel better or worse about the relationship becasue she felt 100 times better about hers when she got engaged. I lied then but I was lieing to myself as well.
At least I didn't have to call off a wedding since I was avoiding wedding planning like the plague!
I've been a bride that's been cancelled on...I was all set to marry my highschool sweetheart, we started dating in high school. I went off to college and we stayed together throughout college. During my senior year of college, we got engaged and planned a long 2 year engagement, so that I would have the opportunity to graduate college and start working without the stress of a wedding looming over my head. I graduated college and we moved in together, we really started planning out our lives together. I thought that I WAS living the life. Little did I know, we were both miserable. Wedding plans continued as normal, and a mere month before the wedding, he called everything off. Devastation was not the word. I tried everything that I could to piece things back together, and there was just nothing that I could do. The more and more that I attempted to piece my life back together, the more that I realized that I really would be much happier not being married. I learned to live my life for myself and not for anyone else. Fast forward to the present: I am now happily engaged and planning a wedding to the real man of my dreams. Looking back, I can appreciate what happened, and I know that I just wanted "the wedding", now it's not about the wedding, it's about the whole picture, I want a successful marriage.
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| User | Posts Today |
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 vorpalette |
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| caseyleigh10 | 24 |
| Brielle | 24 |
| ellisrobertson | 24 |
| les105 | 22 |
| lionskitty | 22 |
| fishbone | 22 |
| SouthernGirl | 21 |
| mypinkshoes | 21 |
| kat2014 | 19 |
| User | Posts Today |
|---|---|
| sylvia.riggle |
7 |
| SouthernGirl | 6 |
| peachacid | 5 |
| smcs28 | 3 |
| lovesweetlove | 3 |
| Zouave | 3 |
| HollyCJ | 3 |
| blueskies7 | 3 |
| armychica06 | 2 |
| imageeksowhat | 2 |
