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That sounds like a great compromise (have a one year anniversary celebration) and you sound really at peace with your decision.
Good for you for communicating well with your FI to make sure you do whats best for yourselves, and as a couple.
That sounds like a great compromise (have a one year anniversary celebration) and you sound really at peace with your decision.
Good for you for communicating well with your FI to make sure you do whats best for yourselves, and as a couple.
I've always thought going to Vegas and being married by "Elvis" would be a hoot! If I weren't already married, that is what I'd do. Maybe we could do that as a vow renewal! lol
That's awesome!!! I've thought about that myself on particularly stressful days!! LOL I still fantasize about eloping, even as we check things off our list...so I am very happy for you making that bold choice and moving forward! And that's EXACTLY what it's about: a union between two people. Everything else is just hullabaloo and fluff. :-)
CONGRATS!!!
Thanks for the support, everyone! Most of our family completely understands & although they are sad that we aren't having a wedding, they realize that it's about us! Things just got to a point where I realized we were doing this for other people, not us.
I think it is wonderful that you are following your heart. I struggle all the time with the fact that my FI and I always wanted a beach wedding, and are now doing a smaller traditional wedding in our hometown (due to our grandparents not being able to fly). I know it will be a wonderful day, but I have my moments when I want to throw in the towel and hop the next plane to FL.
Congrats on making the decision, and have a GREAT time!!
@brandylynnp: That's funny, I live at the beach (Virginia Beach) and the LAST thing I wanted was a beach wedding because everyone here does it!
Wow, what a great idea! Congratulations and have a GREAT time!
@finderskeeperss: Wish we would have done this!!! Good for you for knowing that a full blown out wedding isn't for you--we knew it wasn't for us but our parents were really pushing it on us even though we are footing the bill.
Thats amazing!!! Congrats... That sounds like its a much better option for you guys.. how great!!
Good for you! Weddings can cause so much stress and take such a toll on relationships, and it's so good to hear that you and your FI had the courage to walk away and do what is best for you both. Eloping is incredibly romantic, and it sounds like this is what you really want, so I'm sure you'll always look back on this decision and remember it as the best one you could have made. Congrats on your upcoming marriage! Enjoy beginning your new life together!
I kinda want to do this now... I was totally against it at first but with everything that has been going on, I just want to be married. FI used to want to do this, now he is all gung ho about us having a wedding....
Sounds like a great plan. Congrats and many wishes for happiness!
Congrats! Like you, we decided it wasn't worth it and all of the HUGE family expectations and everything. We knew that it would end up really far from what was important (our marriage) and make us broke at the same time. So we're going to NY alone for a little wedding with just us.
I can't wait to see pictures! Good luck!
Yay! I'm excited for you both and that sounds like a wonderful plan. Congratulations and enjoy your special day! :)
@finderskeeperss: Yay good for you! Everything that you said is so true and I'm glad that you guys found a solution that works for you :)
We've considered doing the same thing multiple times, but we just can't seem to give up the wedding now that we're so close (we just now started making our payments, so there's no going back now haha).
Congrats. Last year we wanted to do exactly what your doing but then I got indecisive and wanted the big wedding. Sometimes I think I need to revisit that idea.
Congratulations!! I am so happy you and your FI were able to make the decision that was right for you. If I had to do it all over again, I would also make the decision to elope, because at the end of the day, it's more important to me to be married, rather than having a big wedding (which the planning for is stressful and time consuming!). But too late now as the wedding is only 2 1/2 months away!
YOU GO GIRL!!!! I am so happy for you. That is awesome!!! I've got elope-envy all over me :)
HIGH FIVE!!
I always hear about couples saying they want to do this, and trudge through the planning anyway, but kudos to you for actually doing it!
I hope it goes off with flying colors and you guys have a wonderful elopement!!
@souliganprincess: elope envy.. I freaking <3 that! I a HUGE case of it.
Good for you! There is a great blog that show beautiful small (only the two of you) weddings. http://www.intimateweddings.com/blog/
@DJones6005: That's what we did. Well we had the non-legal wedding first, then went to Vegas for our honeymoon and got legally married by Elvis.
Congrats for making the best choice for YOU and FI! I wish we had done that, but had too much in deposits etc.
So what is the plan for the eloping?
@mmsva: Thanks for the website! I will be browsing shortly! Love it!
@Soon2beeMrsM: I was really lucky because we had only put in $350 of our venue deposit & they gave us back $250! So May 5 is the day, we are eloping in the courthouse, but we rented out a picnic shelter at a local state park ($80 for 8am to 10p! It fits 80 people!) & we are just having a big, family-style cookout party! No stress, nothing fancy smancy, just us! This way I get to invite my friends too, and the little details were stressing me out before, so now I just get sit back & relax!
The only problem is I bought a Maggie Sottero gown that comes in June, so I have to sell it! But honestly I had always wanted a short vintage dress which I now get to wear :)
i am eloping - 2 weeks today we will be in barbados!!! we had a big posh venue booked (managed to get the deposit back) and i'd bought a big princess dress. 2 weeks ago i bought a bridal magazine, i was gazing at some over-priced tiaras (the one i like was £500 and i felt miserable because my budget was more £30)... and i just snapped.. Our new wedding (which is a total secret between me, my HTB) - it feels like it's about the two of us becoming husband and wife, rather than a project plan... feels so spontaneous and romantic now! am selling my sassi holford dress for £1000 is anyone wants it :) xx
xxx
we are less than 4 months from our wedding and we are so fed up with family drama that we have considered calling off the drama and eloping. I HATE everything wedding related now. I used to be so excited. Now I just wait wait to get it over with.
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There is a major change of wedding plans. We are canceling the wedding... yes, the wedding is off. BUT the marriage is still on! As in... we are getting married hopefully in 2 or 3 weeks! We decided the wedding isn't for us anymore. With us struggling financially, family feuds, not enough planning time between his two jobs and me with school, work, and adding a 2nd job soon, and just a general lack of enthusiasm for the wedding due to these things, we decided yesterday that as lovely as weddings are, it's just not the right decision for us to continue planning a full-blown wedding. It's draining us and was actually taking a toll on our relationship because we were so stressed out about money.
In the end, all I want is to call Patrick my husband and be with him for the rest of my life. I don't need the dress or the music or the lights and the table cloths. I just want the marriage. We are so exciting about this decision, it was actually what we had originally planned on doing when we first started talking wedding. However, we might have a "one-year" celebration, very much like a wedding but renewing vows.