- 4 years ago
hello looking for some advice and haven’t see anything related to this post!
I got engaged when I was 22 to my boyfriend, also 22. We had dated since sophomores in high school! We had planned to marry the following July, but because of financial reasons we had to cancel the wedding.. We went our seperate ways for a while, but eventually got back together..we are now each 24 with established careers and looking at starting to plan again.
Now, I am at this awkward point where everytime I even think about what our wedding would look like now, it stresses me out! Here’s why….. We had everything planned and picked out. I love my dress and still plan to wear it! I loved everything about how the wedding would’ve looked the first time around. I want the exact same thing… But as time has went on, people have changed. For me, anyways.. I know that the wedding should be about us and it shouldn’t matter who else is there, but when I was engaged before I was still in college, many of my guests were college friends who I have lost touch with now that I am two years out. The guests I don’t worry about as much as my bridal party. I understand that your bridal party should be lifelong friends, but I was young! I chose bridesmaids who I thought would be in my life forever but have grown very distant with since college, which is not one persons fault or the other.. It just happened. so my question is, how do I go about still having my wedding, but not including all or even having some different people in the bridal party?
i know it would be easier to have a smaller wedding or destination wedding, but that has never been what I wanted. And I don’t want to do that just to avoid this awkwardness! The bigger problem comes with my fiancé, all of his groomsmen were childhood friends (which I did not have a lot of as most of my friends I made in college) that he still is close to and would have a much harder time cutting because it is not as obvious to them because their friendship has not grown distant like mine. I am at a total loss as what to do here and would love to hear advice or stories of experiences others have been in or witnessed! Anything helps!
I hear about couples who have stayed together, but not how they adjusted their wedding plans. Should I have to give up exactly how I want my wedding to be just because of making the mature decision to call it off the first time?? Ahh! Help!