Post # 1
I have an awful headache today so I told my DH that I’m going to stay home from work and he told me I complain too much! Oh then he added that I think I’m the only person that has been pregnant! WTF! This is our second baby and I work full time so ya at the end of the day I’m sore and tired. IRL I don’t say anything to people other than DH. Do you think that I’m overreacting or was my DH out of line?
Post # 3
What! You’re giving him a child! I don’t think he gets to complain about YOUR aches and pains!
Post # 4
@soon2bmrs.D: Yeah, that was definitely bitchy of him. Have you been more whiny lately? I am only asking because I tend to complain a lot and not even realize it, so sometimes my SO snaps at me as well and then I’m like WTF did I do wrong here?!
He was probably having a bad morning or something else (like work) is bugging him. As long as he’s overall a sweet, nice guy then just try to put it out of your mind. I am sure he didn’t intend to upset you this much. We all say stupid/insensitive things sometimes, so try to give him the benefit of the doubt.
Post # 5
Aww I’m sorry he said that when you weren’t feeling well. It would def piss me off and make me feel super under appreciated. Did you tell him about your headache in a particularly negative tone? Pregnancy can be tough on our men too and maybe we don’t always give them enough credit for what we put them through (listening to our complaining, not giving them credit, etc). Unless he’s rude like this on the regular, I would tell him that he hurt your feelings and not to say stuff like that again.
Post # 6
Oh yeah, jerk move! *sigh* Maybe he’s having a bad day? I swear men must PMS too..
Post # 7
I don’t think the way he said it was appropriate, but do you think he was trying to bring you back to reality a little bit. In a bad way trying to remind you that it could be worse?
Post # 8
I’m sorry. 🙁 If hubby said that to me I would have slapped him. D: Uncalled for!
Post # 9
I would definiately say that you have a right to be upset. There is so much that you feel emotionally and physically and you need a break.
There is so much that your body goes through while you are pregnant, but when you top it off with working full time and a terrible headach, the it will earn you a day off work. Your husband should be greatful that you are willing to take the day off work. Because you need to take care of yourself when you are pregnant and you shouldn’t overdo it.
I would definiately say that your husband owes you a BIG apologize and a large amount of your favorite craving right now.
Post # 10
ugh, men just don’t get it 🙁
Post # 11
Yup manly PMS, bad move hubby
Post # 12
My FI said that to me, too, haha. Looking back now, I can laugh about it, but in the moment I freaked out. He apologized shortly after, but it did hurt. I was complaining a LOT though (but it sucked!). I still complain now. And I whine, oh god. Now he just shakes his head and whine back at me, “Life is haaaard.” XD
Post # 13
Men will NEVER understand how women feel during pregnancy. He has a lot of nerve saying that since so many men are babies themselves when they’re not feeling good!
Hang in there and vent here since we do understand! 😉
Post # 14
My husband would maybe joke about that if I wasn’t pregnant and complain a lot, but talk about poking the bear! Dangerous acitivity he’s getting himself in to!
Luckily my DH is nothing but in awe of what women do, and will need to do to get babies in to this world so he’s always offering up massages and help with things and offers to get me drinks/food. Tell your hubby he can carry the next baby if he wishes- complete with pushing it out of his genitals :S.
Post # 15
I’d be pissed too! I had to have a heart to heart with my husband because when I would say I didn’t feel good he would say “Well what did you expect?” I lost it! We had a come to Jesus and we’re on a different page now. I would say talk to your hubbue when you feel emotionally ready.
Post # 16
Thank you all so much! My husband is usually super understanding since we have gone through this all before thats why it was such a shock to me! I swear he has pms like some of you have said! But anyways he came home at lunch and I had a hormonal cry festival! (full out sobbing) it was ugly lol he said sorry and he didn’t exactly mean it how he said. Which made me feel way better! Thanks for all your support this hormonal pregnant lady really needed and appreciates it! Men! What would we do without them!