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cannot handle "conflict" anymore

posted 2 years ago in Babies
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    Buzzing bee
    cannotwait    February 1, 2009   TX

    So, I'm having a really 'off' day last night/today.  I'm 9.5 weeks pregnant and feeling super emotional (and of course still nauseated often).  I feel like I can't handle ANY conflict or debate anymore.

    Seriously, any mention of politics makes me want to crawl under the covers, when I used to be willing to debate.  Snarkiness on other baby boards is making me lose faith in human kindness, rather than my usual "feeling sorry" for people who have to get their kicks that way.  Yes, I realize this reaction is extreme, but some other boards have women who take pride on running other mamas off with their meanness!

    Today, I really need to have an awkward confrontation with a co-worker, and it is filling me with a sense of dread.  Anyone else have an increased sense of needing to "keep the peace" or just stay in your happy "incubation bubble"?  ;)

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    Sometimes when I was wedding planning, other people irritated me. I'd come home anxious and crabby after "discussing" thing with people online. I'd take a break for a few days, come back, and realize I just needed to hide out for a little. Me thinks an incubation bubble is no different =]

    I really plan on staying away from all those other boards. Women are crazy! The only one I've liked is haveababy.com b/c it's a website for women struggling with infertility versus "my way is better than yours" and "my baby is better". Blah. We'll see, right?

     
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    northernazbride    August 1, 2009   Arizona

    I know what you mean, there are times when I just can't handle any sort of conflict or debate either. There are days when I have absolutely no patience with anyone or anything... I just don't have my normal sense of level-headedness. For me the first trimester was really rough stuff, for months I felt like a different person and I hated everybody for no reason. But I assure you it will get better soon! Try to do something relaxing and nurturing for yourself- if you can take a nice long walk or a warm bath... those things seem to help me on my "off" days.

     
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    Helper bee
    December    December 12, 2008   Minneapolis,MN/Jackson,MS

    Hormones are screwy that way, and it doesn't stop after the baby's born. I'm almost 7 weeks postpartum and I still overreact, get too sensitive, and feel overwhelmed by my emotions. A lot of that is personal circumstances (unemployment, living with in-laws), but yeah, it's difficult. Although, things did get better after the first trimester. Stick around people who are positive and supportive, both in real life and online, and remember that you can always say, "I'm sorry, I'm pregnant and I'm being sensitive to xyz..." and usually people will understand.

    and an amusing way to look at internet debates:

    http://xkcd.com/386/

    :)

     

     

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