Post # 1
Okay, I seriously need to vent. My fiance and I are getting married in Hawaii very soon. When we were planning our wedding, his dad would tell us how his sister can’t afford to come and her complaining started to put a damper on our wedding. I understand if you can’t come because it’s too expensive but don’t complain to other people to the point where his side of the family is complaining how it’s too expensive. So she would complain about money and then go down to Miami for the weekend (we live further north) even if she’s so hard up for money. My fiance and I ended up arguing about it because it really started to annoy me. If you can’t afford to come, that’s understandable, it’s not cheap to go to Hawaii. But don’t complain and then spend a lot of unneccessary money afterwards. So anyways, that was months ago, I let it go. What pisses me off now is that she was putting a damper on our wedding planning but she’s still coming and they just got a condo for their stay in Hawaii for $750 a night!!! If you were so hard up for money why in the world would you get such an expensive condo? A nice condo in Hawaii can easily be around $300 dollars. His parents are the one paying for the condo, but his parents are not even helping us pay for the wedding, they were given a chance to offer, but they never did. For her wedding, they took out a loan on the equity of their house! The money that they will spend on a 4,000 square foot condo for 5 people, could have been used to help us for the wedding. I’m just really annoyed!
Post # 3
I feel your pain… My soon to be SIL is also a HUGE pain in the butt !!! Constantly putting down my FI, and also very jealous of us… so doesn’t have anything positive to say about our relationship. We are getting married in Vegas and she can’t afford to come to the wedding- YEAH !!! hahaha
Good Luck !!
Post # 4
@j9n: Okay. I would be totally annoyed too. Sounds like a spoiled brat.
(So I totally get that you are venting. BUT, in the interest of suggesting a different perspective, SHE is probably also annoyed that you chose to have your wedding in Hawaii and it sounds like she doesn’t *really* have the option of not going–I mean, she’s family. Perhaps his family is putting pressure on her to go. And in regards to the money, no, she doesn’t have to go to Miami and stuff, but that’s why she’s complaining. I’ve been invited to 5 (5!) destination weddings and turned down 3 because, quite frankly, I preferred to spend my money going to places I wanted to go than to their weddings.It sounds like, however, that she’s gotten her way and if his parents want to pay for it they can grumble about it forever, but at the end of the day, you’re getting married. In Hawaii. That’s a true blessing in itself.)
Post # 5
@JennyW1: I can totally understand that, but when we just got engaged I brought up the idea of getting married in Hawaii and she was saying how expensive that would be and seeming like she would be thrilled to go for our wedding because of that. But then a few months later when we hadn’t really spoke again about getting married in Hawaii, she was like “Do you guys want to go to Hawaii, let’s go to Hawaii!!” all excited. So it’s obviously not because she doesn’t want to go there. But like you said getting married in Hawaii it a blessing in itself, so I just need to remember that when she starts getting on my nerves! 🙂