Post # 1
So, FI & I are super excited to plan our honeymoon. For us, we had a vision of beach lounge chairs, cocktails with umbrellas, couple’s massages, and being waited on hand and foot…
…until today, apparently.
FI started looking at villas (granted, I am pretty happy he was doing some wedding related research on his own w/o me asking) and found a “villa” in Turks & Caicos. I’m not sure “villa” is the right term because it’s essentially a house you can rent with a private pool.
Yes, it’s an entire house on a secluded beach. Yes, there’s a private pool. But there is ZERO pampering or being taken care of at this place. The problem? I’m an HUGE clean freak – I know I’ll want to clean whatever mess we make every night, make the bed everyday (yes, I’m one of those, sad but true), and the thought of doing that on my honeymoon does not make me happy Not to mention, I have never had room service in my life and probably never will after our honeymoon, so I was looking forward to ordering room service w/my new husband on our honeymoon.
He was immediately insulted that I shot down the idea so fast b/c he’s insisting a walk to nearby restaurants makes up for the lack of service. How can I get it through to him that this would feel like a simple vacation as opposed to a honeymoon to me?
UGH! Am I being a complete bridezilla? 🙁
Post # 3
First of all, NO you are NOT being a bridezilla!!! I would just have a conversation with your FI about how you appreciate him researching the honeymoon and giving input and that you would love to do something in the middle. Im sure there are places where you can rent little villas that ALSO has room service/maid service and walks to nearby restaurants.
Post # 4
I don’t think you are being a bridezilla for having a specific vision for your honeymoon. But I can also understand how your fiance might feel slighted that his idea got shot down, espeically since this is his honeymoon too. I think the key is compromise. Can you guys spend a few days at the house he chose (you gotta admit it is pretty awesome that he did the research, and he probably is pretty proud of his work. Nobody likes to have their ideas nixed) and then a few days at a villa where you’ll get your pampering and room service? That could be the best of both worlds, and that way, he doesn’t feel slighted or hurt and you get to enjoy your honeymoon. I’m learning to do a lot of compromise as well to make sure my fiance is just as happy with all the plans as I am – the sacrafice is worth it when both of us are happy.