Post # 1
I went to a Bachelorette party on Saturday and while at a bar, the bride-to-be started conversing with some guys who were celebrating a Bachelor party. They invited us to the bar next door where they were hosting a private party, free drinks etc. Well, none of us girls knew that also included female entertainment!
I’ve never seen female strippers before, so my jaw was on the floor basically the whole time! I’ve not been to a strip club before either, so I don’t know what’s normal or not…but these strippers were doing some pretty hardcore stuff.
Anyway, the point of this post is while some of the guys were really into it and were watching the whole time, about half of the guys didn’t even seem too interested at all! In fact, it almost seemed like two parties. One in the back with the strippers, and another at the front with the bachelorette party. About half of the guys cared more about just chatting with us girls, rather than oogling at the strippers!
Most of us bachelorette party girls thought that was pretty amusing. I thought it was REALLY interesting that half the guys were more interested in the “real” girls in the front, rather than the ones in the back.
I don’t have a problem with my FI visiting strip clubs, (although that might have been an “ignorance is bliss” mentality since I really didn’t know what happened there) but my faith in “good guys” was really proven again on Saturday.
Edit: not that guys who were interacting with the strippers were “bad” by any means…but, you know what I mean.
Post # 3
Yay for the good guys! Plus I kind of like the stripper thing because I am positive I will never be doing anything they do and my guy can get it out of his system through watching them. Yay for other girls doing the crazy “look my leg is all the way behind my head” move, leaving me freedom to keep my legs below my waist.
Post # 4
Both me and the boy have vowed to not have any stripper type people at our parties. (I’ve also threatened my girls that there will be no uh “male shaped things” there either) Seriously.
Post # 5
Good post! I’m not worried about the stripper thing, either. My FI would much rather drink beer with the guys on a float trip than hang out at a strip joint. And I’m confident enough in our relationship that, if he were to set foot in one with a few guys (for a bachelor party), he’s not going to run away with Sassy Woodriver. 🙂
Post # 6
I’ve let me girls know I don’t want anything involving a male stripper. I also told FI I wasn’t really happy with the idea of him having them. He’s going to Vegas with friends for his bachelor party. I know most of them so I’m hoping they’ll respect our wishes and keep it stripper-free.
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2009 - Harbison Chapel & The Maple Lane Farm
I haven’t really said either way, but I know Mr. Sunbeam is nervous about going to a strip club. A friend of mine said her husband’s underwear band was broken by a stripper pulling on it at a club trying to get him to into the scene. Not the best way to go lady. I think if either of us end up in one we’re hoping it’s for about 10 minutes and then we move on. We definitely don’t want seeing strippers to be the main event.
Post # 8
I’m really torn on this subject. I trust my fiance but I do not like the idea of him being at a strip club. However, I know his friends are adamant about taking him to the strip club. So I’m trying to accept it and just have faith in him.
Post # 9
My guy just had his bachelor party this past weekend. He had requested no strippers, but of course they didn’t listen and took him to a strip club. He said he just sat at a table and chatted with other friends of his who were equally not interested. Some of the other guys got lap dances and tried to make him get one on stage (he said no thanks). I tried to get him to tell me who got the lap dances, but he wouldn’t. I have a feeling it was guys who have girlfriends, but its none of my business so I didn’t press him.
He said the club they took him to was a “classy” place (if you can ever call a strip club classy?) and that most of the time, the strippers had their clothes on. He said he actually saw very few boobies and felt like you really had to be paying attention. I think there are differing degrees of strip club, I have been to a couple hard-core ones and yeah, very raunchy >.<
I can’t say I like the idea of a strip club, or my significant other going to one, but I trust him when he says he isn’t interested and it doesn’t bother me too much. If I were in a strip club I would look at the boobies too, since they’d be everywhere o.O!!
Post # 10
- Wedding: April 2010 - Marie Gabrielle, Dallas
Mr. Fro Yo feels just like Mr. Sunbeam. They make him nervous. I’m pretty sure he’ll hit the golf course and a Rangers baseball game. Not really your typical bachelor party, but hey that’s what makes him happy, so why not?
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
HA, well, I started the other debate so I guess I should comment
It really bothered me when FH went to a strip club for his best friend’s bachelor party. It’s going to really bother me when he goes to one for his. ICK. But he has promised me he will only go for bachelor parties and won’t get a lap dance. So I guess that’s a compromise. But it still bothers me…
Post # 12
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I’m pretty sure if FI ends up at a strip club during his bachelor party (likely, since it’s in Vegas) that he didn’t actually want to go there but was coerced by his groomsmen. I know his ideal weekend is just drinking and playing craps with his friends, and he’s a bit of a germaphobe: I know he thinks the whole concept is gross, so I don’t mind if he goes to a strip club! 😉 But I would really rather not hear about it, to be honest. That’s between him and his groomsmen (and his conscience 😉 and I’d just rather not wonder what went down.
Post # 13
From stories I’ve heard, there is a big difference between going to the strip club and ordering a stripper to come to your house/hotel/etc. The strip club has pretty strict rules but when you “order” one…who knows what could go down…the whole thing makes me pretty uncomfortable too.
Post # 14
I have no issue if my FI wants to go for his bachelor party. In fact, he’s never been to one, so I keep offering to take him, but he’s not interested. lol. But the offer will stand if he ever wants to.
Post # 15
It’s good to know there are stripper guys and non-stripper guys out there =]. I encouraged my guy to go, joked it was a right of passage and that I honestly really didn’t care, but he had no interest. I said no biggee! It’s just a preference I guess. I wonder how many of the interested v non-interested guys were single?
Post # 16
The ones that come to the house are basically escorts. I have heard many stories from guy friends. I told my FI no strippers that come to the house, he can go to a strip club. I would much prefer no strippers, but I don’t want to sound too controlling and let him have his night. I also told him that what ever allowances he makes for himself, I will be allowed to do the same.
Personally, I wouldn’t mind just having dinner with my friends for my bachelorette party. The whole bachelor party thing is just such a weird situation to me, you want them to have their fun but at the same time your man being grinded on by a naked girl is hard to swallow.