Post # 1
Future Sister-In-Law requested money in lieu of gifts in the invitations she sent out. I really feel it was a tacky move on her part and will look bad in front of our family members who dont know her. I always assumed it was common sense to not ask for money in the invite but to do so by word of mouth. Am I alone in being highly annoyed by this?
Im seriously considering ignoring the request and getting a gift instead.
Post # 3
****Jaw dropping to the floor****
That’s just tacky.
Post # 4
No, I agree with you. Although many of us may prefer money over gifts, it definitely is not polite to word it in the invitations. There are other ways to make that preference known! When we mailed out our wedding invitations, we did not include any information about registries or gifts.
Post # 5
Seeing as you posted this on the WBee Etiquette Board.
No you are not alone in this thinking… it is a HUGE Etiquette Faux Pas.
I hope I read your post right, and the Invites are to HER Wedding and not yours !!
Someone should have told her about WBee sooner.
Post # 6
Yes, the invites are for HER and my Brother’s wedding.
FYI im not requesting money or including registry info, and only letting people know about gift preference IF they ask.
Post # 7
We didn’t put anything in our invites, heck we haven’t even registered nor will we. We just want everyone to come and have fun.
BUT, on the flipside for weddings that I’m going too I would prefer that they include where they are registered at and if they preferred money since that’s even easier…LOL. I know it’s Faux Pas but I over analyze everything and would prefer someone to tell me what, and where.
Post # 8
I would get her a mixing bowl set….
Post # 9
If Miss Manners were here, she definitely would request someone to bring her the smelling salts. I still find it amazing that people do not know that they should not do this, or, if they do know, that they choose to do it anyway.
Post # 10
That was very rude of her, but please don’t stoop to her level and intentionally get her the opposite of what she asked for.
Post # 11
It greatly annoys me when couples do this.
Post # 12
honestly… I don’t get why people care so much. arbitrary rule IMO.
Post # 13
i dont know if its just a local thing but its very rare to get an invitation here (manitoba, canada) that doesnt say “presentation please”. i dont think ive ever seen an actual gift at a wedding before. totally the norm although we left the line off cause i think enough people know and were doing a more low key thing anyways.
Post # 14
Etiquette aside, I live in a very multicultural place and it’s really common for certain groups to ask for “No boxed gifts”
Post # 15
@troublesmom: What does “presentation please” mean? I’m from the U.S. and have not heard that expression before.