Post # 1
… to a venue!
FI will be the first to tell you that I have committment issues. (Why do you think it took us 5 years to get engaged?!) I like to take my time and am really slow when making big decisions. I.E. When I was in high school I couldn’t decide which college I wanted to go to (even after making about 30 pro/con lists) and literally waited until the very last day possible to mail my decision. Oh then and I obsessed about it until I left for school, wondering if I had made the right decision.
We’ve been to 4 venues. It was really easy rule out 3 of them. Soooo, that leaves 1 right? Nope. I’m so afraid of making a decision that I’m dragging my poor FI back to my hometown to look at another 3 places.
When does it stop?! At some point I need to just suck it up and pick a freakin’ venue!
Any other bees have committment issues?!
Post # 3
I had a friend who was exactly like you in choosing her venue. I would suggest checking out the additional venues (maybe by yourself or with a friend/family member if your FI doesn’t want to look anymore). Otherwise, you’ll always wonder. HOWEVER…if you have looked online at them and there are ANY red flags (room isn’t big enough, parking is weird, etc.), knock them off your list and don’t look back. Venues aren’t always perfect as is–hopefully you are able to find something that meets 90% of what you hope to find. If you already have that in the one that is left on your ‘maybe’ list, it’s probably an amazing venue. Good luck!
Post # 4
I am the exact same way! Luckily my budget was so tight that it limited my options, but that didn’t stop me from searching every nook and cranny on the internet to make sure that I had exhausted all of my options. I went as far as booking one place and then changing my mind six months later and booking something else. After that I had no desire to change my mind because I loved it so much. It’s just a matter of finding something that makes you feel good inside, I guess. I am so indecisive in everyday life that I would rather starve than make a decision on where to eat, lol!
Post # 5
Ugh good to know I’m not alone.
@MissOwl: Good tips! Thank you! I’m going to look at 2 more places next weekend. I think if I don’t fall in love with either of them I’m going to stick with the only one on my “maybe” list.
@aubrav: I am so indecisive in everyday life that I would rather starve than make a decision on where to eat, lol! THIS! FI is always complaining about me doing this. If he eats without me and I’m left to fend for myself for dinner… It’s over!! I get so grumpy and can’t make up my mind that I get all huffy and say “Forget it! I’m not hungry anymore!” and then I don’t eat. Seriously?! That is sooooo irrational and I don’t even know why I do it! Bahaha, I can’t believe there is someone else in the world like this. I thought it was just me!
Post # 6
Nope, now we know there are at least 2 of us, lol!
Post # 7
I do the same thing when faced with decisions. Luckily, my FI brother is a wedding/event coordinator for a banquet hall, and we’re using his venue. OTHERWISE- I would have never made a decision. Go ahead, ask me how the other decisions are going. THEY AREN’T. That’s how they’re going.
Post # 8
ME !!!! I am also having issues with committing to a venue… I dont think the perfect venus exist for me in the area I need it, with the budget I have, with the size wedding I am having….
I am being forced to commit by next Friday… 11/5
Good Luck !!!!
Post # 9
I’m in the same position. I’ve narrowed it down to two (or maybe three), but the dates are filling up fast. Right now our top two choices only have one date each left in the months we want. So that may mean making a decision this weekend. ughh. I can’t wait for this part to be over.
Post # 10
Thankfully my wedding date is far away, so I’m not feeling pressured to make a decision… Although maybe if I did feel the pressure it would be easier to just pick something!
@TheFutureMrsE: I can’t seem to find that “perfect” venue either. We have such a huge guest list, it’s hard to find something unique that can hold all of our guests. I have found so many beautiful venues only to find out that they only hold 100 or 150 people. Bummer.
….And so, the search continues!