(Closed) Can’t decide if I should go to my HS reunion

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

LOL we just talked about this on the chat thread. We had a 5 year reunion planned even though there’s a get together every year anyway (some of my class is still living in high school) but not enough people decided to go, so it got cancelled. I don’t feel bad about that one bit. If you do’t want to go, then don’t! $100 dollars could buy a super nice dinner for you and the FI, without all the “yeah… I’m doing such and such…” awkwardness.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Girl, it seems to me you have answered your own question! If it’s not gonna be great financially, it’s too close to the wedding, and (most importantly!) you don’t WANT to go…. don’t go!

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Ugh, I’ve thought about this as well.  Mine will be coming up next year.  As discussed in the previous post re: “hating where your parents live” I have ZERO desire to return to my crappy hometown and see my H.S. classmates who were never that nice to me in the first place.

I do have a sneaking desire to show off my handsome FI and our fun life, but I don’t think it’s enough to want to go back there ;o)

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

If it makes you feel better, mine was REALLY lame. Given the reasons you stated, don’t bother!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Ours got canceled because there wasn’t much interest, but the 8 of us who were around, went to a local sports bar. SO awkward. And what’s even weirder is that like 5 of the other 7 people – I was REALLY good friends with in high school. And we couldn’t think of anything to talk about. I’m not sure if it would’ve been better or worse with more people.

And I had always looked forward to our reunion! But now, I doubt I’ll ever go to one again. It was painful!

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I doubt that I would go to a high school reunion.  The people that I want to talk to and see from high school are the ones that I keep in contact with.  The rest of them, I don’t really care to find out what they have been doing since graduation and if I did, I could probably look at their facebook!  I think that since money is tight and it’s right before your wedding, you shouldn’t go!

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@honeybun: One of FI’s classmates/former close friends organized theirs this year and gave FI a HUGE guilt trip because he couldn’t make it.

It ended up being like 10 people in their town’s dive bar.  He still laughs about it ;o)

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Mine’s in 2011, and I definitely plan on not going. I still keep in touch with people from high school that mattered to me anyways, so no point in spending all the money to go across the country for a reunion!

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@JenniferEspos: Sounds like my town!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I had my 5 year reunion this summer and I went for three reasons: to show off my shiny new engagement ring, to tell everyone about our fab wedding that most aren’t invited to (yeah, I’m kinda a b*tch), and to tell everyone about our fab life in Chicago.  I know it’s a little petty of me, but I actually had a blast at our reunion.  I was worried that old crap from HS would be brought up, but we played drinking games and had a ton of fun.  It was really unexpected.  But if you don’t want to go, then don’t, not worth the time if it ends up sucking.

BTW, my home town is small/redneck/cliqueish/and about 90% of the people I graduated with still live there and are marrying their high school bfs/gfs.  It’s cool if that’s you, but just not for me.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I do want to throw these two cents your way: My FI decided that he didn’t want to go to his reunion a few years ago mostly for financial reasons and because he was worried that it might be awkward, but now he really, really regrets not going.  He has heard from people how much fun it was and how much they missed him being there.  I wasn’t planning on going to my reunion until he told me how he felt he had missed out on something kind of special.

Post # 15
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Helper bee

I felt ambivalent about mine and ended up going, and was pretty glad I did!  It was a lot of fun, and it was nice to see people that I hadn’t even thought about in years.  I was surprised at how pretty much everyone remembered me (I was a shy geeky kid) and even those that hadn’t been all that nice during HS were awesome at the reunion.  Good luck with whatever you decide!!

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

If you have to ask yourself whether you should go…the answer is probably no. Online networking is making reunions somewhat obsolete.

My reunion is next weekend, and I’m blowing it off (though, to be perfectly honest, most of my schoolmates were complete bores).

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