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Bleh, our invitation wording has been such an issue! We are sending a booklet invitation with several pages of information... think like a pocketfold with multiple inserts, but our inserts are pages. 

To take up the right amount of space (we have to have a certain number of pages so we can have a tear-out RSVP postcard) we are putting our ceremony & reception invitation on two separate pages even though they are at the same location:

Page 1:

Mr. & Mrs. Mother and Stepfather LastName

request the pleasure of your company

at the marriage of their daughter, etc.

Page 2:

Celebrate with us

at a Brunch Reception

immediately following the ceremony

Okay, so. Last night, as soon as I sent that wording to our invite designer, I had this pang of: Is that the right choice? My dad and I have a very strained relationship right now. He is not walking me down the aisle by my choice, and he is not contributing whatsoever to the wedding. He hasn't really taken much of an interest in it. Still, we love each other, we are speaking, and importantly, these invites are going to his family members who will probably notice his name is absent.

By having my mom and stepdad as the ones doing the inviting, I worry that it looks like we are trying to make a point. So I'm thinking that even though my FI and I are not hosting the wedding, it would be the most gracious thing to do to omit all parent names and say:

Together with their parents

Daniellemybelle

and

FI 

request the pleasure of your company, etc.

I wouldn't put my dad's name on there because that would just be weird, honestly, so I feel like the above is my only real choice.

So, I presented that to my mom, and she had a suggestion she saw on Crane's website: change the reception invitation wording so that she and my stepdad are hosting that. So the ceremony invitation wording would be "together with their parents", but the reception would say:

Mother and Stepdad LastName

invite you to celebrate with them

at a Brunch Reception

immediately following the ceremony

I felt like that is a good solution that acknowledges their role as hosts of the reception without slighting my dad in the ceremony wording.

BUT! The whole thing is taking place at my mother's home, so on the first page, after the ceremony invitation, it will say "At the home of Mr. & Mrs. Lastname". So is that defeating the purpose of trying to be gracious if their names are on there twice?? 

I know this is convoluted but I'm having a hard time deciding what to do, although I am leaning towards just leaving off all parents' names and saying "Together with their parents" and being done with it. I just was hoping to be able to acknowledge my mom and stepdad as hosts, though maybe saying it is at their home is good enough?

I know :( And looking at this post, I think I presented it way more confusingly than it actually is... basically the options are:

A) My mom and stepdad do the inviting. Slight my dad, possibly look less than gracious, but it is accurate and honors the fact that they're giving our wedding.

B) Leave off mom and stepdad entirely, and say "together with their parents". FI and I aren't hosting, so its not really accurate, but it is the most delicate solution.

C) Use "together with their parents" on the ceremony invite, and have my mom and stepdad invite guests to the reception. Doesn't slight my dad on the ceremony, still allows mom and stepdad to be honored as the hosts. But since it will say "At the home of Mr. & Mrs. Mom/Stepdad" on the ceremony invitation, now they are getting billed twice and so it may do exactly what we were trying to avoid.

It seems like B) is going to be the best option, though if we weren't having it at my mom's house, C) would work well.