Post # 1
My Fiance and I have been engaged 4 1/2 months and I’m ready to elope. I’m very unsure where we should get married, in my hometown or in our current city.
Background info: When we first got engaged my father insisted we get married in my hometown, which is 8hrs away. He refused to pay for the wedding unless it was there, but now, after months of discussion he doesn’t care where we get married and will still pay for it. I know my parents want me to get married in my hometown because my entire family lives there and its less expensive.
Everyone, with the exception of my dad, is excited to travel for my wedding and have a vacation. I know it would be easier to plan a wedding in my current city, and its about halfway between our families, but I feel very conflicted about it. I’m worried it would disappoint my dad, and my mom would feel like she’s being left out of the planning.
My Fiance wants it to be here, mostly because he’s not a fan of my hometown but also because he’s worried my family will start to take over and stress me out. I’m trying to make everyone happy but its impossible and I have no idea what will make me happy. How do I decide where to get married?
I have no friends who have planned a wedding so I feel very alone with no one to talk to. I wish I could just elope, but it would crush my family, especially my mother!
Post # 3
@Physalus: I think you should do what is best for you and your Fiance. 🙂 It is going to be impossible to please everyone. My Fiance and I are getting married in his hometown and it makes it difficult because a lot of guests are out of state. But it is cheaper in his hometown and that is why we ultimately chose that location.
Post # 4
@lovelylight99: I know that not everyone will be happy. Its just hard to say we’re definitely having it here, since its less expensive in my hometown, Buffalo, NY. Which is where I see you are getting married. Has it been difficult planning from so far away? And I’m worried I won’t find a venue there that isn’t a hotel ballroom or banquet hall.
I got a lot to deal with and my Fiance isn’t the most helpful.
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
I will tell you from experience that it is much easier to plan a wedding in the city where you live than hours away. My wedding is less than two hours away but we have to plan for our trips to St. Auggie and we are only able to get up there about once every 2-3 months. It makes it difficult to deal with vendors and appointments when we have to cram them all into one day or do everything over the phone instead of in-person.
You can get your mom more involved by Skype with her once a week or month to discuss ideas and planning and invite her up for major things like dress shopping and cake tasting. In the end, the less stressful you make planning on yourself, the better.