(Closed) Can’t Decide on Anything: I Feel LAME!

posted 7 years ago in Decor
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think you should start with easy stuff. Do you have a venue picked out?? Start with colors and go from there. I stated by picking my favorite flower. From there I picked bridesmaid dresses and picked grooms attire. I did an inspiration board where I just picked things I liked to give me ideas. Take it a step at a time, it will all come together.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I started with the colors. We actually had the colors picked out a long time ago when we were watching his family wedding videos. His brother had yellow and purple and his sister had silver and black. We both liked the colors silver and light blue so that’s what we decided back then and that’s what we are going with now. It fits perfect for February too so we are doing a winter theme. Once the colors are picked out everything else will fall in place.

Post # 5
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Helper bee

Definately try inspiration boards! I put together a few at Dessy.com! You could start with the season of your wedding and go on from there, I think that might give you a starting place. Im very indecisive also and you have to think of it as a good thing sometimes! lol! Im sure if you start to put things together in front of you, you will have a few different pallets to choose from, and they will ALL be beautiful!

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Do some surfing on wedding websites. Establish some folders in your favorites file-flowers, centerpieces etc, then for a while give your self permission to just look and save what you like,

After a while, review your choices- you will see a theme in the pics you have saved. Most of us tend to lean toward one style or another. After you recognize your preferences you will be able to move on to making some choices.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

While not engaged, my BF and I have already picked colors. Wa are using his favorite color (bright orange) and my favorite color (neon blue).

See if your favorites go together well.

I’ve gone through maybe 6 or 7 wedding magazines and dog eared pages of things that caught my idea. Try doing that. (See if you can get magazines from older seasons. Are there any Half-Price Books where you are?)

http://weddinggawker.com/ is a big compilation of wedding stuff from across the Internet-verse. (Universe? Blogosphere?) Check through there and see what catches your eye.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Same thing here.  My advice is to just pick something and go with it.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am terrible about committing to anything wedding, just like you. Have you picked your venue yet? We picked the venue first and then I picked my gown, then just went from there. I took colors that were already at the venue and just incorporated them into my our vision. I don’t have specific colors because I just couldn’t decide. Choosing specific colors was literally making me sick to my stomach, so I chose a color pallette instead. Maybe that is something you would want to consider. Once you pick your venue and your gown, things should start to go a little easier. I suggest making lists for everything you want to have in your wedding. Lists are my friend and when I feel like I am spiraling out of control, I go to my lists and they set me back on track.

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’m in the same boat.  The more I see online, the more undecided I am about the few decisions i actually had made…

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I dress shopped first, and was kind of torn between two dresses that I liked, and had no idea where the whole thing was going.  Then we picked our venue – a very pretty garden ceremony and a conservatory reception. 

At that point, everything clicked… I knew which dress matched, and the exact feeling that I wanted everything to have.

Don’t worry, it will come!  Find something that you really love, and figure out how to build and highlight it.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I should also say.. that even though I there are something set… I do change my mind what feels like every day. I swear I’ve liked 3 or 4 different center pieces and I haven’t even thought about music yet. So please don’t feel like you’re the only one having a hard time.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

The ONLY reason I have a color picked for my wedding is because my sisters picked green BM dresses.  Otherwise, I promise I’d still be stressing about the colors.  FI has started making it a point to get to the mailbox before me so that he can hide invitation samples from me (I’ve chosen invites, but I keep ordering other samples just in case there is something out there I like better).  Yesterday, I emailed two new possible ceremony venues just in case they would be better than my current venue.

So I feel your pain.  My best advice is once you DO commit to something, stop looking at other options.  Or, start spending money on things.  The only personality trait that is stronger for me than my indecision is my frugality, and I’d never waste money!

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I had a really hard time with this. everything i wanted i just couldnt seem to get it together…I finally decided on Red Black and White thinking it was classic and elegant and EASY! i originally wanted to do a champagne color and cornflower blue but trying to find the right color blues and havin everything go together just seemed to crazy in my head. I am perfectly ok with the colors i ended up with i think htye will look lovely and it will be super easy to find red and black things..especially around the holidays.

just take your time, maybe try for an inspiration board. the hardest part is making the decision..once you decide its easy peasy and you will find things left and right.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I am the same way. Eventually I decided that I just needed to get a wedding planner. She is really great about helping me filter through my ideas and then telling me what is possible and what is just impractical. I found that this was actually going to save me a lot of time, money and stress…

There are a number of wonderful people that will provide help with your design early on (you can meet with them, bring your ideas and they’ll help you talk through everything and steer you in the right direction) and then be able to just do DOC. If you can’t afford a full service wedding planner.

Good luck!

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