Post # 1
Hey everyone I am new to the bee but have been reading the board for awhile
My wedding is in dec and I still have not decided on the dress D:
I have 2 in mind but can’t decide what to do. My dream dress is a bit out of budget I wanted to keep the dress to 700 at the very very max but the dress of my dreams is 900 🙁 the other dress my family likes is 600 at an online retailer and 800 at the bridal shop. I have tried talking them down and no luck and I have considered and attempted to persue getting both made from various china websites but never got answers or they didnt have the right fabric
(for ref – i dont have any photos, dream dress http://www.alfredangelo.com/collections/productdisplay.aspx?productID=5adc334e-baf0-49ea-9114-bd4fbd7005fb&categoryID=32e5a88c-cbf1-498f-afcf-dbfca138c5d3&pg=1&colorId1=
settle dress (the rouching on the top looks strange one me but otherwise a pretty and flattering gown) http://www.alfredangelo.com/collections/productdisplay.aspx?productID=7af14d65-e824-4bef-8d60-7f6d7e71e1cb&categoryID=32e5a88c-cbf1-498f-afcf-dbfca138c5d3&pg=3&colorId1=
Now I am at my wits end and really unsure how to move forward. My FI says go for it and get the dream dress but I have alot of pressure to spend as little as possible coming from my family (even though they are not paying they are really over bearing type) and while I know I should save money I also really like the dress, but my dress and attire is looking to be taking up half the total wedding budget (very small diy affair)
so my question for all you, what would or did you do? Spend a bit more and get the dress of your dreams or settle and save money?
Post # 3
If you tried on dream dress and can find it online for 600 I don’t understand why you don’t buy that?!
Post # 4
Scratch that, re-read it.
I would probably buy the dream dress and make a 200 dollar cut elsewhere. Why can’t you figure out where you can save 200 bucks?
Post # 5
@vmec: no the other dress is 600 the dream one has no discount anywhere 🙁 its 900
Post # 6
if your wedding is really that small i can’t see it being too difficult saving the extra couple hundred to get what will make you happy. however, if it is TRULY that difficult to save that much money to make it happen then i would say stick to your budget! after all if you are that strapped for money you don’t want some unforseen thing to ruin your finances because you didn’t have money put away for a raining day (spent it on a dress)
Post # 7
go with the dream dress, and cut 300 dollars someplace else. 🙂
Post # 8
Go with the dream dress.
The amount of moentary difference is not that much in the scheme of things, and you may regret it if you don’t.
(Having said that- I DO love both choices).
Post # 9
I would do a little homework and if this really is your dream dress, than you should get it!
Post # 10
If it was a big difference, I’d say budget. But for $200? Go for it. Also, this is between you & your FI, not your family 🙂
Post # 11
Agree with vmec, even if it is $300 instead of $200. If it were a $900 and a $300 dress, I could understand settling, but the difference between $600 and $900, while relative and still important, is not worth worrying about your dress over. If you don’t like the one you get, you’ll regret it. And that leads to frantically selling and ordering other dresses, losing more money anyway, or just generally being dissatisfied. If it were $500+, sure, settle, but you’re fortunate that your dream dress is pretty attainable. That’s basically having fewer flowers or cutting down on favors. Limit your bar to beer and wine or go for the plainer chair option. It’s sad to say that in weddingworld, $300 isn’t really all that much!
Post # 12
Your settle dress was my dream dress but no bridal stores in my area sold it.
Anyway… you should get your dream dress and cut the money elsewhere!
Post # 13
If youve tried both dresses on and are convinced that the first dress is your dream dress, then I think you should get it. It’s such a beautiful dress, and I think it would be an extra $200 very well spent. 🙂
Post # 14
I think both dresses are really pretty but this is YOUR day, not your families. You should get the dress you love. If you don’t you might regret it on your wedding day and that would be awful.
Post # 15
Definitely get the dream dress. I agree with PPs that $200 is pretty insignificant in the grand scheme of things. Think about it this way: When you look back 10 or 20 years from now, will you really regret having spent an extra $200 on your dream dress? Probably not.
And another thing – if your family isn’t paying for anything, stop talking to them about how much things cost. None of their business how much you spend on your dress, or your wedding, or anything else for that matter. If your FI is okay with it, that’s all that matters.
Go for it!
Post # 16
I honestly prefer the settle dress, but I believe that this is your wedding and you should get what you want (when it’s reasonable – like $200 more for the dress).