Post # 1
Maybe it’s because I’m very stressed at work, but i’m starting to get really anxious about my wedding band.
I haven’t been able to find a wedding band that would fit next to my engagement ring, let alone be something I like.
I got an heirloom engagement ring, which I’ve talked about before, that I can’t change the setting on. My mother would be destroyed if I changed the setting to a color gold that I prefer or to a different type of ring.
It’s a knife-edged yellow gold ring, with a marquise diamond in it. I have no idea how large the diamond is. I went to a jeweler to try to find a very simple band that would fit against it and they didn’t have anything! I was a little annoyed that the jeweler didn’t have things in very many sizes, so I couldn’t try them on very properly. (Is that the case with most jewelers? Is everything a special order?)
So, I have to turn to the Bees, because I’m at my wits end. I look online and I look, and I see things I like, but I don’t think they’ll sit against this marquise setting – and the curved or v shaped rings that are meant for these situations are super ugly, in my opinion.
The pictures are the ring, and a strange one from the side so you can see how far it edges forward. I like simple, engraved bands and although white gold is all I wear, this band has to have some amount of yellow otherwise the engagement ring won’t match.
I need help! What the hell can I possibly do with such a strange diamond shape? It’s pissing me off!!! I feel like crying.
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Post # 3
the issue with that (gorgeous) ring is that the stone is set quite low and the prongs, as a result, are also low. Unless you get a very thin band, its going to hit the prongs and not sit flush against the band. Now for me, I dont care that it doesnt sit flush, but the banging of the prongs would irritate me and make me nervous. You might consider getting one custom made with a bit of an arch to compensate for the low prongs. If you’re like me, you dont want to wear them on different hands right? You could always wear that on your rght hand…
Miss MaryJane has a marquis, chekc out her posts for her wedding band photos. They COULD give you some inspiratin (I cant remember off the top of my head what they look likE)
Post # 4
Hmmm… jusging from the side view picture, I think its possible, but I doubt you can buy one “off the rack”. It might need to be a custom piece that takes into account the shape of the diamond.
Have you only looked at one jewler’s? You might shop around, or start shopping for a jewlery designer instead of just a seller.
Post # 5
Kelly – your calm tone is really helpful today. You really think it’s pretty? Lately I’ve been having issues, but I feel like a terrible person for saying that it’s not my style really. ;/
Anyways, that’s exactly right, I don’t want to wear them on separate hands, and it would bother me greatly if there were a gap or if they were banging into each other. How could I find a jeweler to make a custom ring? I’m living in an unfamiliar town to me, and every jeweler says they’re the best, of course.
Post # 6
I agree with the pp’s. I think you are going to have to find a jeweler that does custom work. It can be done, it’ll just take a little more time and effort. Don’t give up yet!
Post # 7
Is there anyone in town you can ask for recommendations?
Post # 8
My fiance and I aren’t living together, and wont’ be in the same town until 4 months before the wedding. Is that enough time for custom rings to be made?
Tessa – nobody I work with got married locally. ;/ I mean, I could ask the secretaries if they’ve heard of someone, but it looks like they got married a long time ago…
Post # 9
that is such a gorgeous ring! i am jealous!!
i don’t know much about getting rings custom made but i know loads of people do it. that is probably the best route for you to take. good luck!
Post # 10
@coconutmellie The ring is beautiful, but if it isn’t your style this maybe be a good reason to change the setting. Then you could find something that is perfect, and buy the setting and band to match.
If you want to stick with the original there are thin enough rings out there. Mine has diamonds and sapphires all the way around and it sits almost flush to my hand. If you don’t want the hassle or expense of a custom ring I would just go out and try on a whole bunch of styles. You won’t really know how it fits together until you see and feel both on your finger. Trial and error.
Post # 11
My custom ering took about a month to make but it was over the Christmas and New Years holidays. My wedding band took about a week.
Edit: My jeweler no longer has a store and is working out of her house. So she has very few customers. I would definitley ask each jeweler what their timeline is.
Post # 12
sjbee – I started doing that, but every jeweler I went to had rings in only one size, so I could never try different styles out in the right sizes – I thought it was going to be a happy mid-afternoon pick me up, but it was instead really frustrating.
Frankly, and I feel like the WORST person in the world for saying this, but it’s the diamond shape. I had never seen a marquise diamond in my life, and… I dont like it. It’s traumatizing to have that opinion about the one ring I’ve wanted most for 10 years.
Post # 13
@coconutmellie – Always here to help =o) dont feel bad saying that you are not the biggest fan. I think marquise diamonds are stunning…However I am not a fan of them on my hands. I get jealous when I see them on Mis sMJs, it just looks beautiful on her. I know your mom might be crushed, but do you think perhaps if you mentioned that you are having a hard time finding a band due to the setting that she might be ok with you wearing it as a right hand ring? Then you can get your dream engagement ring and not feel bad about not loving it. you wont be completely abandoning it, you know? You should get an elated feeling when you look down at your engagement ring and wedding band…
Im not sure where you live, but if you are not into the idea above, perhaps try another town over for a custom band? Or try an Alchemy search on etsy, they can provide you with some huge resources and alternatives you may have never thought of.
Post # 14
I don’t mean to be mean or disrespectful to your mom, as I’m sure she has her reasons and it was very generous for her to give your FI the ring to use, but she needs to “put on her big girl panties” and realize that it’s not her ring anymore, and that you should have the right to do what you want with it! It’s not like you want to chop it up into thousands of pieces and have it reset into the shape of the devil or something– I mean, it seems like you would be happier if you could simply get it dipped to change it to a white setting, not yellow.
Does she know how much angst this is causing you, and that it’s filling you with negative energy each time you look down, and feel disappointment (and a bit of anger at not being able to change it)?
I didn’t love the marquis cut either, for my hand, until I saw one set sideways– East/West. So pretty! Your stone would be beautiful set in this way, with just a simple white gold band.
I’m sending good wishes your way that you can someday convince your mother to be ok with you resetting the gorgeous stone into something that’s more your style. Good luck!
Post # 15
I agree that if you are truly unhappy with it, your mom needs to get over it. She gave it to you, it’s not a loaner =]. My mom by the way, has a gorgeous marquis. It’s got 4 or so smaller marquis set around it and is flanked by a contoured row of rounds on either side. No pictures, sorry! They are very elegant with a little bit of vintage flair =]. I looove that sidways one; i’ve seen it other places and it is really a neat shape.
In finding a jeweler, I think you coudl just pop open yahoo local or a phone book, google “Jeweler” and make some calls. SOMEBODY is bound to do custom rings OR will know someone who does. A private jeweler is your best bet versus a retail store perhaps
Post # 16
I love that ring! Don’t get frustrated, you will find something. It is lovely and unique and you should embrace it! I have an antique ring, and I had a similar problem. I ended up getting an antique partial eternity ring (from the same era, 30’s) that does not “fit” as the curved ones all looked weird. I actually like that there is a gap between the two. I did not think I would, but I really do. In the end it looked better to get a ring that ‘matched’ as opposed to ‘fit against’. Try going to an antique jewelry store, you may find a match.