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Can't get over it!

posted 2 years ago in Recaps

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Liv_CJ

I have been married for over 6 months now...and while being married to my hubby has been wonderful...and we had a beautiful and really fun wedding...I can hardly stand looking at my wedding pictures. My hair is just awful. Of all the little things that could go wrong - of course, my hair is in ALL of the pictures, so its really hard to just forget about and move on. Yes, I know things could be way worse, but all I have left of the wedding - other than memories- are my pictures and I look horrible in them :( When we did our portraits outside, it was windy yet humid which really took its toll on my hair - and NO ONE bothered to tell me that it looked matted to my face and pretty much covering one of my eyes, not even the photographer who obviously had to see what my hair looked like the whole day and night!

Part of it is my fault though - The hairstyle itself was just not that great to begin with. I trusted an acquaintance (who is also a hairstylist) to do my hair. I should have known that it was a bad idea when the hair trial didn't go well. I figured it would be fine on the actual day of my wedding...but with all the stress (family drama, etc.), my lack of sleep,and being on a REALLY tight schedule at the salon, I left the salon not fully happy. My hair actually didn't looked pretty good though for the first hour, but not in the portraits, ceremony and reception pictures. We had an expensive photographer because that was the most important vendor to me and my husband (for obvious reasons) and that was our one main splurge. It is just heartbreaking to see how wonderful everything else turned out and then having ME ruin our wedding pictures. It just really sucks because the pics are over and done with and theres no way I can ever "retake" them. We still haven't picked out our album pictures because I have a hard time looking at myself ...Aside from the horrible hair, I look tired and somewhat stressed...and I just don't look like the bride I always wanted to be. I ruined our pictures and I just cant seem to get over it :(

Any thoughts, ideas, words of comfort (please)....???

Thanks for taking the time to read this..I just needed to vent!

2 years ago

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Busy bee

hcritton 09/06/09 Seattle, WA

I posted here: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/i-ruined-our-pics#post-519666

Don't be so hard on yourself though. Hair is just hair. There are soooo many other things to focus on on your wedding day. Your beautiful dress, your makeup, our jewelry, your face, your smile... try looking at the bigger picture. Even if your hair is not perfect, I don't think it could really take away from how you really looked that day.

2 years ago

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Buzzing bee

Miss Chapstick September 2009

I think every bride goes through this phase. For some, it lasts longer than others.

After our wedding, while I should have been basking in how amazing it was, I obsessed over my bangs (they were too thick, long and crooked looking), my hair style (I wish I had worn my hair down instead of in an updo), the flowers (weren't what I ordered), and yes, even my dress. It depressed me that I couldn't get over this stuff and it depressed me even more I was focusing on these small details.

I eventually got over it (it took me about two months). I realized that I'm my own worst critic, and once I stopped over-analyzing every picture, I realized it wasn't as bad as I thought. I'm sure it's the same with you.

I am, however, trying to convince my husband to do an anniversary shoot for our one-year anniversary. I'd really like to do my hair over, put the dress back on and retake some photos. He's into the idea, but not totally 100 percent yet :) That might be a good option for you guys.

2 years ago

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Sugar bee

rosychicklet September 27, 2008 Boston, MA

Have you shared this with your photog? Can he/she do some touch-up work to improve things? Or maybe do some creatice cropping? If you look tired due to dark circles, they can be Photoshopped. If your hair is frizzing, perhaps there are some close-up shots that can be cropped to be just your face? I'm sure your photog has Photoshop skills that could help.

I hated a lot of my photos. I like how I looked, but the photog sucked- things were crooked, there was always weird stuff in the background, the pictures were totally boring, etc. It was hard at first and I cried. As time went by, I was able to get about how much I hated the pictures and focus on how I was feeling when the picture was taken!

2 years ago

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mrsI

It sounds lame but they could be alot worse...

Out of a couple hundred pictures from our wedding about three are useable. I hired a photographer that had done good pictures for friends and was reasonably priced. But on the day of our wedding she found out she was pregnant and i guess her mind was somewhere else. My husbands head was cut off in most of them! We've been married for over six months and I still cant get over it ...but hey! I could have no pictures instead of three...:)

2 years ago