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My fiancé broke up with me about 2 weeks ago. Everyday is a struggle. There are times where I feel good and think I’ll be ok and then I have times like today where I just cry. I miss her so much, and she is going on with her life like nothing happened. I just keep thinking of all the fun we had together and how I pictured spending the rest of my life with her. I want to think its going to get easier but with Christmas and new years coming up I know it’s going to be really hard. I just keep holding onto lost hope that she will come back into my life but I know she won’t. I have been talking to some girls but it just doesn’t feel right because I have feelings for her and love her. The other thing is all of my friends have girlfriends or are engaged and I’m all alone. Sometimes i think its not even worth it anymore. My heart is broken and I’m scared to love someone again.
Post # 3
@Packers12: It takes time. Give yourself time to heal and focus on you and things will fall into place. Go Bears 😉
Post # 4
@Packers12: check out missmelly’s threads about her engagement being off. Those two threads are like the mecca of breakup advice on the Bee and some of it might help you
Post # 5
@Eckle: Where do I find it?
Post # 6
I found MissMelly’s more recent breakup recovery thread: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/update-the-wedding-and-relationship-is-off-healing-journey-part-2
I’m sorry this happened, and that you feel so down. But, it’s only been 2 weeks; that’s not very long, and time is the best healer. . . unfortunately or fortunately!
Make sure you do some nice things for yourself! Maybe it’s too soon to be talking to other women– just give yourself some space to process things. Or if being around women helps, and they understand how your emotions are, then go for that. (Please do make sure that anyone you’re flirting with, if your intentions are to have a fling or short-term relationship, understands that you are recovering from a breakup of a very serious relationship/might be rebounding.)
Best of luck recovering– you must feel so bad right now. . . when you felt so sure about her.
BUT you WILL get over her and go on to find someone who wants to be with you and is better for you!
Post # 7
@Creiddylad: Thank you, that was really nice to hear.
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
I’m sorry that you have to go through this. Maybe talking to a professional will help you find ways to grieve and heal at the same time?
Post # 9
@missmorganista: I’ve thought about, I talk to my mom all the time about it. The hard thing that its just not her I’m losing its her entire family. They did so much for me and they feel awful about it. her parents own the jewelry store where I got the ring and my mom and I went there last week to see about the ring. Her brother helped us and my mom and I started crying and then so did he. Me and her brother were very close, we would hunt and go golfing together. I miss her family as much as I miss her. I feel bad for my mom because she has to work with her mom everyday.
Post # 10
breakups sucks and it takes time to get over it. Surround yourself with family and friends. I honestly like jumping back into dating to at least take my mind off of it, meet some new exciting people and see all the possibilities that are out there for the future. That’s definitely not the approach for everyone though.
Post # 11
@Packers12: when i went through a horrible breakup 2 years ago therapy saved my ass. I was always in touch with my feelings but I learned so many things through therapy. Before that, I never would have imagined I could afford it but now, I just make a few cutbacks and I know it’s the best investment I’ve ever made.
I thought I would never love again and I thought my heart was permanently broken. It took a lot of work but I met my SO 6 months after that horrible breakup and the only reason I was ready was because I had been in therapy that whole time. I’ve been with my SO for 1.5 years and we have an appointment at the jewelers in 2 weeks to look at engagement rings.
I thought my awful ex BF was the one for me and I was dead wrong. When we broke up I literally said that I would never love again. I was just so wrong. Therapy helps so much because even when you meet the right person you will probably still have trust issues. I’m still in therapy today and I love it! My current relationship is the best I have ever had and even though it’s not perfect I have never for one second thought I would want my ex back. My SO is just so much better for me, it’s like night and day. My sister said to me “sometimes the good things you experience in the wrong relationship are just reflections of the goodness inside of you.” She was right. I know you think you’re relationship was the one but I’m guessing that’s because you are a good person, and there is someone out there for you that will never let you go. You need to take care of yourself so you can be who you are and someday, a while from now, find that person.
Post # 12
@Packers12: my fiance and I split this time last year. It gets better. It is HARD but it gets better. :::hugs::: feel free to pm
Post # 13
@Packers12: It might help if you changed your name to Redskins12 …sorry, had to.
Sorry you’re still hurting over it all, but try and keep busy. Think of some things that you’ve been wanting to learn / do, and make a goal to do one of those things each week. At least that will keep you occupied, and it will give you some focus on something other than her.