Post # 1
Long story short. I had my 2nd fitting for my dress the other day. I felt nice in my dress, it still needs some alterations, but I love my dress, it suits me and my personality. The “problem” came when another bride was their getting in her dress at the end of my fitting. I felt like the ugly duckling. Of course the woman was a beautiful, tanned, model-type body with a super expensvie gown and amazing hair and is a “12” (good for her!) and I feel like a “2” with a budget friendly sample-off the rack gown. I now very much feel less-than. I realize it’s a self-confidence issue. I’m trying to work on that. Any ideas to feel your most beautiful on the inside and outside especially for your wedding?
Post # 2
Take care of yourself, lots of sleep, exercise, eating healthy foods if you aren’t already and make sure you take time for yourself and your perception will change very quickly. Don’t do these things to try and look better but to actually feel better. It will work 🙂 I’m working on this too, it’s a tough thing to do and especially with the wedding industry pushing ideals onto us, it’s really hard not to compare but you can feel your best on your wedding day!
Post # 3
Understand that you can make the decision to feel good or feel like shit. If you choose to feel like shit, it only hurts you. The other person is still happy, living their life. So why not choose to be happy, thankful, and enjoy what you do have and keep it moving?
Post # 4
sunshinesparkles: Eh…..I’m kind of feeling the same way. Its what motivated my “Who do you wish you looked like” thread. I feel like as I get older, I’m more comfortable in my own skin, but there are those days where I just feel bleh……
Maybe try treating yourself to a mani pedi or get your hair done? Pamper yourself a little. Wear an outfit you feel beautiful in. Let your FI know you are feeling down and let him make you feel beautiful Honestly…..nothing makes me feel more beautiful than my husband’s adoration!
Post # 5
Post a picture and the hive will make you feel better! I am sure you are beautiful in your dress. Try to see yourself through your FI’s eyes. 🙂
Post # 6
You can’t choose what happens to you, but you CAN choose how you handle it.
Xu: is absolutely right. Feeling upset about it and dwelling on the differences only hurts you. Take care of yourself, and realize that your fiance chose to be with you for a lot of reasons. He doesn’t sit there thinking “oh, I could be with that random tanned and gorgeous chick”
Post # 7
Try to remember that everyone is insecure about something. I’m not having a big bridal party (5 girls, not small by any means) but every Pinterest and magazine picture has girls with like 8 and it makes me feel dumbly insecure about only having 5. I’m sure there are a million things about your wedding other brides would kill for so that kinda helps out things into perspective. And like precious bee’s said your FI loves you for you, and you will look stunning in your gown!
Post # 8
Thanks for all of your replies. It’s been extra stressful about A bunch of non-wedding things and I’ve been extra sensitive as my face has decided to completely break out which I know doesn’t help my confidence. And I don’t get time to really do anything for myself. But I’ve always struggled with my self esteem. The wedding coming up has made it bubble back up more negative. My fi is very loving and supportive, it’s all me in my own head. Something has to give, I don’t want to feel like this anymore. It should be a happy time.
Post # 9
I would say ” dont judge the book by its cover”. sometimes we compare ourselves with other people and wish we were lke thembut we dont know much about their own personal journey. Love yourself and love what you are and have now. Find happiness in simple pleasures of life and practice gratitude. Remember that beauty comes from within.
Post # 10
sunshinesparkles: Its hard not to compare but truly and honestly we are all special in our own ways. On your wedding day, everyone especially your soon to be husband will think you are the most stunning bride, I promise! I mean hello.. he wants to spend the rest of his life with you, obviously he thinks you’re perfect!
We all have our bad days but don’t dwell on it, we all deserve to feel like princesses on our wedding day!