Post # 1
So I’m about 4 1/2 months out from my wedding, and although I’m loving wedding planning and I adore my fiance, I can’t help but feel down lately.
A couple weeks ago, I moved home to save money before the wedding. My fiance also lives at home with his family. We’ve been in a “long distance” relationship since we met. We only live an hour apart, but with crazy schedules it still makes things really kinda hard sometimes. I work sparatic hours, he works a full time job and he plays paintball for a team, so we only get to see each other once or twice a week. The even harder part…. He has a protective mom, and I have a protective dad… so we have to sleep in separate rooms both here and there. Yes, we’re adults, but it’s under their roofs.
I don’t know how many on here are in long distance relationships, but it just makes things kinda hard sometimes. Today I found out he’s going out of state with paintball friends for the weekend in a couple weeks, and for some reason it just kinda bothers me. I hate being without him all the time, and not being able to do a thing about it. It’s hard planning a wedding apart. I know people are dealing with so much more than I am, an hour isn’t that bad, but with schedules and everything added in just makes it that much harder.
When we get married, it will be the first time throughout our entire relationship we’ll be together all the time! As excited I am for that, it still kinda scares me a little bit, just because we’ve never had that. I wouldn’t change our relationship for the world, the distance has made us so much stronger and appreciate our time together, it’s just a huge change…
Post # 3
Four and 1/2 months will probably fly by with the wedding planning! And then you’ll be together forever. 🙂
Post # 4
Gah – I know EXACTLY how this feels. My Fiance and I were long distance (across the country) for a LONG time. Once he moved back, we still lived 40 minutes apart, both lived at home (with parents who didn’t let stay over at each others houses) and only saw each other a day or two a week. Just think that your wait is ALMOST OVER and how exciting it will be to finally live together after all this time apart 🙂
Post # 5
awhhh, i’m sorry you’re feeling down date & state twin!
i can completely sympathize – my fiance and i were long distance (he in texas, me in minneapolis) for a year and a half before we finally moved in together. and now, he’s deployed overseas (been gone for 3 months, and back december 1st), so we’ve adjsuted back to the long distance thing again. it’s so hard!
sometimes i feel like other people don’t understand how hard it is and what people in long distance relationships have to deal with & give up to make it work. but the important thing is that you love eachother and are looking into your bright future together!
hang in there – spend lots of time with your family & friends and be kind to yourself. it’s ok to feel blue sometimes. just remember all the wonderful things you have to look forward to and how sweet your next reunion will be.
sending you lots of hugs & support! 🙂
Post # 6
my fh and i were in an LDR for all of college… he went to CA, i stayed at school in FL. it was SO rough – for 4 years! – but i can honestly say that i appreciate him so much more now that we’re together and that it strengthened rather than hurt us. we lived together during the summers but i was worried about the longterm too. its worked out wonderfully and i have a whole new love of sharing my life with him, every day, even in our tiny apartment 🙂 i know it is hard but know that four months will fly straight by!
Post # 7
Thank you for all the support, it helps a lot that others have gone through the same things. And I agree, others don’t always understand what it’s like to be in a long distance relationship, working around schedules, getting to spend only a couple days together. But in the end, it’s only making us appreciate each other more and making us stronger.
I am excited though, we’re taking a vacation up to northern Minnesota in early October at a timeshare his parents have, so we get to spend an entire week away just us. I can’t wait! It’s things that like that make the wait and distance worth while 🙂
Post # 8
I completely know how you feel! My Fiance and I have been in a LDR for a year and a half and typically have only seen each other every two or three weeks. It’s gotten a little more frequent since I’m laid off and am looking for jobs in his hometown. I will be moving up to his house in a month or so.
But, I completely know what you mean about being nervous about the adjustment from seeing each other rarely to all the time. There are times I freak out and wonder if we’ll be able to put up with each other.
But it sounds like your relationship is solid and while this new chapter will be an adjustment, it will also be a wonderful new opportunity to learn about each other in a truly committed relationship.
Good luck! You’re almost there. 🙂 We LDR girls know the anticipation you must be feeling. 🙂
Post # 9
hello date twin and fellow long distancer! it’s ok to feel down and scared about that. i often feel the same way! unfortunately, Fiance lives 10 hrs away so i don’t even get to see him once a week. we try to shoot for once a month but it’s been hard with saving money for the wedding. currently we’re going on 7 weeks. *blah*
there are times when i feel really down when i dont get to spend time with him on the phone when he’s decided to go out and I have to go to bed early for work. or when he visits (i live in the same place that we went to high school and his family lives) and he spends more time with friends so we don’t get much alone time. the thought i keep in mind is that once january 15 hits, i get to live with him.
of course then my worries pop up because we’ve been long distance for about 4 years and we’ve never lived together. i worry that something will pop up that will cause issues. but then i remember that we’re awesome at communicating (due to being long distance!) and that due to how long we’ve dated we know just about everything about each other.
that’s exciting that you guys are getting a vacation soon! hopefully that will help you feel a lot better! 🙂
Post # 10
WHOA – you see each other twice a week?? Are one hour apart??
My Fiance and I both lived in Manhattan on the upper east and upper west sides for 4 years — took an hour via public transit (any NYC people out there) – and therefore only saw each other, with our work schedules, once a week.
NOT LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP.
I now LIVE with my fiance of 7 years in NYC, and only get quality time once a week because we work so hard and our hours are silly.
Not at all trying to undermine what you’re feeling — but come on. Long Distance relationship involves planes, or leaves from Iraq. You see him twice a week — that’s amazing!!! BE THANKFUL. and hope maybe he can ditch his paintball for a couples weekend…
Post # 11
YIKES i just re-read what I wrote and didn’t mean to be so harsh…
…just meant to put it in perspective.