Post # 1
My honey and I got engaged a few days ago while on vacation (eeee!). In fact, we are still on vacation. The first week, we were travelling with a bunch of family and this week, it’s just some friends. Because he knew that his family would be home before him, Fiance told his mother (who wasn’t on the trip) that he might be coming home engaged and asked her not to tell anyway until it was official. He really wanted to be the one to tell her in person and not have some else let it slip before we got home. Great – I don’t have a problem with him telling his mother about his plans. In fact, I think it’s sweet that he wanted to tell her himself.
My problem is that while were were away, his mom called just about everyone she knew to tell them he would be proposing…including my mom! When I called my mom yesterday to share the news, it wasn’t a surprise at all. It’s extremely likely that there are people who knew he was proposing even before I knew!
Future Mother-In-Law says she just can’t keep a secret. Fiance has already told his mom that he’s very disappointed that we won’t get to share the news ourselves, especially with my family. I know there’s not much we can do at this point (other than never tell this woman anything ever again!), but I have to admit that I’m a little sad.
Post # 3
@smiles4jo: I don’t blame you, she overstepped the line by a loooooooooooooooong way! But you’re right, there is nothing you can do except perhaps watch what is shared with her in the future – she could do the same with your pregnancy too! (When the time comes)
Post # 4
I would be so angry! My Future Mother-In-Law knew that he was proposing, and the day of, apparently she called a few times, and the last time said, “Would you just f
g do it already, I can’t keep this secret much longer!” But she kept her mouth shut, since she knew how upset everyone would be if the secrert got out (and Fiance threatened to not invite her to the wedding if she told..)
Post # 5
I would be really sad too! 🙁 Thats one of the best parts I would think is to be able to share it with your family and friends. I can def see how the excitment got taken away from you. 🙁 At least you have a Future Mother-In-Law who is excited her son is marrying you tho rigiht?? haha 🙂
Post # 6
That sucks 🙁 I had a simliar thing happen. My FI’s aunt found out and blabbed our news to everyone 5 minutes before we were to announce it on Thanksgiving.
Post # 7
This happended to me as well….I had people (2 girlfriends specifically) that I had been talking to for a year about how excited I was about my Boyfriend or Best Friend (now FI) at the time and they were always rootin me on and talking me through things and asking me about when I thought I would get engaged etc etc…I always felt like they were my teamates so to speak. So the first thing I did when I got engaged was call them all excited expecting them to jump up and down and scream and be excited with me but instead I got a “ahh…that’s so nice, congrats..” becasue they already knew! My Fiance told everyone about his plans to propose, I was the last to know. Even my family knew so I didn’t really get the reaction I was looking for they were obviously very very happy for us but they’d already had their moment of excitement so it was very anti-climactic for me in a way