- 4 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
Have an etiquette question I hoped you could help me with – four of my FI’s female friends organised a second hen party for me that was absoutely fabulous and I was ever so grateful as this was something I wasn’t expecting them to do as they put so much work into it. This was 3 months ago and one of them is now getting married in June. Her cousin is organing her hen party and I initially RSVP’d “yes” and paid a deposit. However I completely messed up my dates as I’m actually away that weekend for 3 nights for my mum’s birthday and I’m now unable to go to the hen do.
I felt so bad and once the other three girls found out I wasn’t going they seemed quite ‘off’ with me despite me apologising and saying how terrible I felt about my date mess up. I’m really worried now that they think I’m selfish and don’t really appreciate everything they did for me i.e I’m willing to let them plan my party but I’m not willing to make the effort to spend time and money going to one of their’s 🙁 As yet the bride to be doesn’t know I can’t make it.
There is no chance of me getting out of my mum’s birthday trip and I don’t want to try and get out of it as she’s had quite a hard time of things lately and I know how special it is to her that I’m there. What I would however like to do is send a little card and present to the bride to be prior to her party wishing her a fun day and saying how sorry I was I couldn’t make it – do any bee’s have any suggestions about what I could send as a gift??? UK hen parties don’t have gift registies or anything like that so I can’t just buy something off a list. Also any suggestions for making amends with the other girls would be appreciated too!!!