Can't Really Afford a Honeymoon?

posted 3 years ago in Money
Post # 3
8390 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

My husband and I are waiting to take our honeymoon, and we’re going to do something local.  We plan on doing a vacation to Europe or Asia on our 1 year anniversary.  To be honest, I don’t really see the point of the honeymoon being right after the wedding; for me, it’d just be stressful.  I loved getting to spend our first married night together in our house, in our bed.  My husband and I lived together for about 5 years before our wedding (purchased the house 1 year before), and we’ve taken multiple vacations together, so maybe that’s why the honeymoon wasn’t as important to us?  We also never plan on having kids, which I suspect is the original purpose of the honeymoon.

Post # 4
743 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@springbride23:  We were in a very similar position. Instead of waiting for a ‘dream’ honeymoon, we decided to do something on a way smaller scale, but still nice. We found an adorable B&B on the cape for just over $100 a night! Its a historic home owned by a husband and wife and only has three suites. It took a ton of searching to find it, but I’m so glad we did! We will be staying for four nights. I estimate spending about a grand for the whole shebang. It’s possible you just have to do your research 🙂

Post # 5
11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@springbride23:  FWIW, I was dead set on going on our honeymoon right away, and it’s my only wedding regret.  We were married Saturday and left early Monday morning and were so exhausted the whole week! The first 3 days we were in bed sleeping at 7 PM!  If I could do it all over again, I’d definitely take a late honeymoon.  Maybe you guys could just do a short mini moon immediately following until you have money for a bigger trip?

As for affordable all inclusives, Punta Cana, Jamaica and Mexico are going to get you the most bang for your buck.

Post # 6
2460 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Can you take one a while later? We’re planning on taking ours around 4 months after the wedding because of the time of year. I think it’s a cute way to almost relive the wedding magic! I know lots of people who have done it this way and they were happy about it. Plus, they get to spend more time with guests right after the wedding, which is especially nice if they came from out of town 🙂

For all-inclusives, I’m in Canada so pricing is pretty different but take a look at the Dominican, Mexico and Costa Rica.


Post # 7
11379 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@springbride23:  you still have a year to save for a honeymoon.  if it’s important to you, you will find a way.  for example: get another job (pt even).

if it’s simply not in the budget, just book a couple of nights at a nice hotel and enjoy room service and a bottle of champagne.

we only had a little hm a few months later and plan a bigger trip to europe later when we have the time.

Post # 8
11300 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

We’re planning on going later. We currently can’t afford to go, but even if we could, FI goes back to school right after the wedding. We’re hoping to go in December when his semester is over if we can afford it.

Post # 9
2581 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

@springbride23:  We’re in roughly the same situation, I’m hoping we might have some money left over from our budget at the end to get a last-minute deal!

Post # 10
898 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@springbride23:  FI and I will be taking our honeymoon at a later date. There was just too many expenses with our wedding to afford one right away.

Post # 11
3199 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

i hate to say this, but we are putting it on credit. :/ we had all the money we needed for the wedding, then two of our four parents decided to rip their promised contributions out from under us – after we’ve already signed for all our vendors and purchased everything we need. 🙁 so we don’t have money for a honeymoon without putting it on credit.

we’re going to do something super affordable that doesnt require a super expensive flight. i have to use my vacation days right after the wedding (they’re expiring), so its right after the wedding or not for another year. 🙁

Post # 12
796 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@springbride23:  My hubby to be will be gearing up for his finals right after our wedding (romantic, no?) in April. We might take a day or two (it is the Saturday before Easter, so we might have Monday off), and do a mini-moon if possible for a few hundred bucks. We want to take a “real” honeymoon later, perhaps that summer or the following winter… we’ll probably be moving that summer, so it depends on logistics and how much we are able to save.

With the exception of a bit of help from his parents… and possibly, maybe a bit from mine, we are doing the majority of the wedding by ourselves (the money bit, others will help putting things together DIY style and decorating).

We want no debt outside of our student loans when we come into the marriage, and we are not taking out a bank loan for a wedding, so I totally feel you on this!

Post # 13
5263 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@springbride23:  We didnt have a honeymoon because we had a destination wedding and stayed for 11 days while all the guests stayed for 7 days. It was supposed to be a mini honeymoon but since some of the guests arrived on different days we really only got one whole full day together alone at the resort. We decided we didnt really need to spend the money to have an actual honeymoon since we wanted to save for our house and because we go on a all inclusive vacation together each year anyways so we will do a one year anniversaty vacation instead.

Post # 14
917 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Our honeymoon will be delayed 4-5 months due to weather concerns. We’re headed to South America with a stop in Machu Picchu and, it turns out, February is the absolute WORST month to visit. So… we’re just postponing everything. We’ll spend the wedding night in a hotel, then back home. Perhaps we’ll take Monday and Tuesday off to recover, then it’s back to work! We’re not particularly sentimental about the timing of the honeymoon, and we’ve traveled together a lot already, so the novelty just isn’t enough to press the issue. 

In terms of inexpensive, you can always look for a good deal on a cruise–many leave from NYC and Baltimore, so you could drive to the departure point, instead of flying–or perhaps one of the Carribean all-inclusives. You’ve got enough time to troll for a good deal. Best of luck!

Post # 15
8850 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

@Weetzie:  +1.  

Try to find a little getaway that can be done on a budget.  I think the key is having a few days to just hang out with your new hubby and relax, not that it has to be in a beautiful tropical location with free drinks 24/7.

We may not have any extra time off cause my guy is switching jobs (*tear!*), but if we do, we’ll just go camping or to a B&B for a couple days.  Then we’ll save up and take a great trip over the winter.  I do think that if you have the time, getting a few days away is pretty important.

Post # 16
7997 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@springbride23:  I think that it sucks you’ll miss out on the honeymoon right after the wedding, but then again, if you go into debt for it, it won’t be the experience you dream of either.

You’ll have that nagging feeling knowing that you can’t really afford it. That’s no fun. It’ll go by in a flash and then you’ll have to deal with the financial realities for many months afterwards.

I would save up and wait. No shame in that. Starting your married life in debt is foolish.

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