(Closed) Can’t set a date, can’t pick a place, so indecisive! (long)

posted 8 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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4382 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

I know it’s frustrating right now, but keep on trucking. I’m crazy-indecisive about so many things right now, and our wedding is in June! I think it’s pretty normal to feel how you’re feeling. Being immersed in wedding world can make one feel like the only one NOT totally decided on every single detail, but I promise you, you’re not alone!

Easier said than done, but breathe, take a step back, and I swear it’ll all work out. Just takes a little wiggling. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
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677 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m totally with the Snipster on this one – breathe, take a step back and give yourself some time to wrap your brain around your wedding. You’ve been engaged for two months and you’re buying a house – do a happy dance and be proud of yourself! You are accomplishing huge things at an astonishing rate.

I think we all are here because we love weddings and sometimes that love can drive us straight over the edge. We see so many gorgeous weddings here and do so much research and find so many amazing details that it can quickly become overwhelming.

I don’t know about everyone else but I have been refining and tweaking my vision for about six months now – and I’m still a little over a year out from our wedding!

Post # 5
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3125 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

you have practical things to do and think about this month – there is no harm in putting wedding thoughts out of your head for 30 more days.  You don’t have to follow anyone else’s timeline but your own.  And if you’re rushing and busting your a$$ to hash out plans now, you’re not going to have any fun, just stress, and probably second guess your decisions.  But when you do start to have free time again, think about how you want to feel that day.  And start from there – you may want a winter theme, but what about that theme appeals to you?  You may be able to adapt.  Good luck, and remember that if you’re not having fun planning, you’re probably doing it wrong ๐Ÿ˜‰ I would do the whole thing again!  (though not right away, heh).  If you get the FEELING right, then you won’t second guess so much and you can just check things off the list when the time comes.

Post # 6
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I know how to feel.  I’m sure that you will figure something out.  My husband didn’t have opinions either.  I initially wanted a winter wonderland theme too but I didn’t want to wait that long and Colorado weather would be unpredictable more than Ohio I think!

Wait until you have moved into the new place and then you can think about wedding planning things.  Maybe some time off from wedding thinking will give you some clarity about it.

Post # 7
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3125 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

yes PS: tell FH to get an opinion.  On something.  You don’t want to put all your effort in planning and have some random thing come up that he doesn’t like and flip about it.  I would do this, so that’s why i mention. 

Post # 8
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683 posts
Busy bee

You can do this, Corgi! One step at a time, deal with your house, then your wedding. You have a good amount of time to work with. I hear your pain about the weather, I live in the midwest too. However, the only thing you’re taking a chance on is whether the ceremony is indoors or outdoors…. it’s not like you have to plan two weddings- just pick a space that has indoor and outdoor choices.

You might want to look on the bright side of your FI not having opinions- one less person to please! *Hugs*

Post # 9
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606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I agree with the others, prepare for your move, settle into your new house (ek! how exciting), send out “We Moved!” postcards and plan an open house so everyone can come visit you and your FI in your new home. 

By the time all is done, it will be mid-spring, you will have had a few months to think about when you want to get married and planning a wedding a year away won’t feel so far away!  Don’t stress it… just enjoy your time making your new house a home ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 10
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1408 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Congrats on the recent engagement and the new house! As for the rest, take a break. I spent a while freaking out that i didn’t have everything 100% planned and ready to go (with less then a year to the wedding) and all I got was an ulcer from the stress. You have plenty of time to plan and decide! If I were you, I’d aim for a late May wedding at a venue that has an amazing outdoor space, but also lets you have access to the inside. Or, a venue with HUGE windows and beautiful views (we found this at a park pavilion over looking the lake for cheap when I had my heart set on an outdoor wedding!). And what about the winter wonderland theme calls to you? The romance? The color scheme? The freezing cold, thus a need for cute accessories like sweaters, coats, etc? A winter color scheme can EASILY be used any time of year- blue, silver, red, gold, etc. all make great wedding colors no matter what. The romance can be achieved any time too. Search “romantic wedding(s)” on google images and you’ll see what i mean!

Post # 11
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1566 posts
Bumble bee

We got engaged in June and set a date in late November. We were initially planning for July 2011, then April 2011, then March 2011, and now booked for September 2010! I am totally with you on the date frustration, because we had so many conflicts to work around! 

I think a winter wonderland theme could be cute, but it doesn’t sound like you’re married to it (you also wrote that you both would love an outside wedding). So I think pushing the wedding back is fine. I think you do want to make sure that both immediate families are fine with the date no matter how frustrating that may be. You want them to attend and to have the time to be excited with you and support you through the process. With both families planning for 2010 weddings, 2011 sounds like the best option. You could find a venue that has indoor and outdoor spaces and plan for an outdoor ceremony in May or June. 

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