- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
I just need to vent and don’t know how I should react to this or do.
I live in a 2bdrm apt with my mom to help her with rent. My younger brother has his own room and my mom and I share the other room. I use to sleep in the living but my other younger brother moved back. I attempted to move out but my mom says she needs help with rent and starts calling me selfish and instead of paying full rent, I should just continue to stay here and pay less and help her. I figure, I’m only 6 months away from getting married and moving; might as well, stay, save as much as I can and when married, get our own place. Fiance lives with his parents, which is good as well because he’s saving and his father is dying, his mother is 75 and has a sister who visit every other weekend, who has cerebral palsy. So they need his help more then ever.
My problem now is my mom’s bf is always over and spending the night. So I’m left to sleep in the living floor and need to get my clothes or whatever I need before he goes over. Once he’s here, I can not go into my room. It’s ridiculous! Her bf is irrelevant to me because my dad still helps my mom with rent because of my youngest brother living with her. But he has no idea about her bf, even that she has one. I told mom, I’m not getting involved but I will not be ok or have a relationship with her bf until my dad knows the truth. I feel so guilty knowing this and not telling my dad, so I will not get to know her bf. I’m getting tired of getting kicked out of my room. And Fiance doesn’t even come over because when he use to, we would just watch tv in the room land my mom will say he’s being disrespectful for laying on her bed. It’s only “her” bed when she wants to justify her arguments. Before she would say that it’s my room and I can do whatever I want with it. But all I have is my clothes in there. All my personal belongings are in FI’s parent’s garage. Because she said my stuff was in the way. But all her stuff is out and on our dressers. I have nothing!
I already told her its uncomfortable that her bf is always there now and spending the night while I’m there. She obviously didnt care because he’s here again and once again I’m left to gather my clothes for work tomorrow and stay in the living room.
I’m now waiting for this back house to be ready, so I can move out. I’ll rather pay triple the rent now and not save for my wedding, just to get out of here. But it might be another month or two. By then I’m only 4 months away from my wedding and moving again! What should I do? Deal with it until I get married And continue saving money? Just rent another place and pay triple, even though I just might be there for a few months?