Post # 1
I’m not sure wehre to put this, babies or parenting, since my daughter is 19 months old… Anyways, I really just dont know what to do about breastfeeding anymore. Everyone who knows i still bf is constantly judgin me and telling me im “gross” and shes going to “be a weird kid”. It getts old hearing that stuff, people actually make me feel ashamed about breastfeeding for so long. But thats not why i want to stop!!! She is 19 mo and still on it ALL THE TIME! After seeing the times magazine thing i am a little scared thats going to be us. She has shown no sign of stopping any time soon. I am so sick of my nipples being bitten and sore, shes really getting rough! But then, when i try to quit and i tell her “no more boobie hunny, they went bye bye” she cries hysterically and i feel like a horrible mother. Its the saddest face i’ve ever seen.
Its not just that my boobs hurt when im at work or when she bites me. What is really killing me is my sleep! We co sleep bc of bfing. Its jsut easier for me to not have to get up eighty billion times a night to feed her. However, i leave for work at 5 am, and she sleeps in with her dad until i get home at 10 am, without waking up at all! its like she can smell the boob and HAS TO GET IT or something.
So what do i do?! How can i stop without it being a horrible experience for both of us? I really need som advice and any tips you can think of
Post # 3
@maylove13: The main thing to do is to relax, breathe, and remember that you are the parent, and you are in control. If you let her control you, she will win, and you will not meet your ultimate goal of weaning.
Can it help to slowly reduce the feedings, without going cold turkey? Does she have a schedule she adheres to? Maybe use a pump into a bottle or a sippy cup, and alternate boob with bottle / cup. You could also try sleeping with her in her room, so she gets used to the atmosphere, and bf there those nights, but gradually sit with her and give her a cup or bottle to go down with. Plenty of kids go to sleep with a bottle. Do not feel guilty about that. Hopefully easing her out of it isn’t too traumatizing. But remember, when her temper flares, you must stay in control, and teach her that her behavior does not get rewarded with boob.
Post # 4
i do let her win almost every time, that is a BIG issue with us. And today i have been trying to quit and shes having a major temper tantrum right now screaming for daddy bc i wont give her boobie (he works nights). I just feel like crying too!
Thank you for the advice, i think we will try sleeping in her room tonight… She wont take milk from a sippy cup ro even a bottle, it is so weird, she has been that way since birth. I think the biggest thing will be trying to remain in control and not give up.
my crazy grandmother told me to put vinegar on my nipples and tell her theyre “yucky”.. is that just crazy to me, or would that really work?!
Post # 5
First I want to commend you for what you have done to give your daughter such a healthy foundation, physically and emotionally! You deserve a lot of credit for the sacrifices you are making for her!
I have to disagree with JulesSchnooks comment. Your daughter is not trying to control you or misbehaving by being upset when you suddenly refuse her her familiar source of comfort and food. Breastfeeding for her is an extremely comforting, relaxing, secure routine. Suddenly trying to stop it is shaking up her little world!
I would recommend holding off on the weaning for a few days until you and your daughter can both calm down about it. It sounds like it has been pretty traumatic for both of you so far! I wouldn’t make any big changes (like sleeping arrangements), but just let things settle. Then, when you are back into a routine, start to wean her VERY slowly. Don’t rush it; kids have just as hard a time with sudden drastic change as we adults do! Start replacing one feeding a day with a snack or other distraction, and build up from there. Don’t tell her you are weaning her or that she can’t nurse, just shift her focus. It will take her a while to adjust, and will probably take the better part of a month to get her mostly weaned. But it will be so much easier on the both of you; trust me! And I wouldn’t change sleeping arrangments and wean simultaneously–that is a LOT of changes for such a little thing, and for Mommy too!
Hugs, and best of luck to you! You’re doing a great job!