Post # 1
Well, the boyfriend & I have been talking about engagement for a little while now. We’ve been ring shopping, talking about indoor vs. outdoor, how we want to design the invites ourselves (both graphic designers), all of the fun stuff. I can’t stop dreaming about it.
Q1: should I tell him when I dream? I don’t want him to see my obsessive side but we are so honest about it… I mean he tells me when he does.
Q2: We also dream about kids & always talk about it when we do, why is an engagement that isn’t happening more scary than talking about kids??
long story short: I feel crazy! I guess I’m just very excited about marrying my best friend.
Post # 3
It’s totally normal to be excited and anxious about the possibility of getting engaged!! To keep yourself from feeling crazy, I absolutely recommend joining the ‘Waiting’ boards with other ladies who are also going through it, and read Mr. B’s 5 step plan (I don’t have a link, but it should come up in a search?) which will help calm your nerves. Welcome to the hive!!
Post # 4
Thanks! That helps so much! Jyay hearing the “not crazy” part calms me down. & I will figure out how to move this convo to the “waiting” category!
Post # 5
Weddingbee is the best place for you to be!!! I was “crazily” searching on the internet “will he propose, when will he propose, why he hasn’t proposed yet, signs he will propose” about two months before my FI proposed. I just had a funny feeling – plus, we had already been dating 3.5 years. This website was a lifesaver. I was very emotional in that 2 months and might have scared him with my “crazy” feelings. Check out the waiting boards – they will really help.
I’m rooting for you!! 🙂
Post # 6
OMG! You are sooo not alone! I don’t think it’s wrong at all to share your wedding dreams with him 🙂 I think the reason you’re more nervous about getting married than having kids is because kids don’t even seem that near into your future like getting married does…I know that’s how it is for me! Mr. S and I have been talking about marriage for almost a year now and the closer it gets to our “big trip”, the more petrified I become! But when I talk about having kids together, it just makes me excited and not really nervous at all…because I know that it’s not something that I want to happen for AT LEAST 4 years…very exciting for you and I hope it happens soon!! 🙂 Keep us posted!
Post # 7
I feel the same way. Although, mine is because I’m moving 800 miles for grad school and I feel like I’ll be pulling away because I’ll be so far away. So, SO and I talk about potential wedding details all the time. It makes us me feel like our future is solid for sure.
Post # 8
You are totally normal. it’s a tricky thing because it’s not just talking about something that affects both of you the same way, but rather something that he has to DECIDE to do and you don’t want to feel like you’re forcing him and you want him to want it etc. It sounds like he enjoys talking about these things and loves you very much. I wouldn’t feel bad sharing with him. I am sure he is just as excited as you! Once he knows you are ready, you can just play the highly frustrating but enjoyable waiting game… It sounds pretty much in the bag to me! How exciting!