Post # 1
Ah ladies I’m in full out waiting despair mode!
We’re leaving for Greece next week for a 2 week vacay with his family, and I was so sure it was going to happen then I’ve been bustling with excitment, have been shut-it-uping for months.
But now I’m almost certain it will not happen.
And I don’t think I can wait anymore.
I’ve been going through the evidence both ways. My misplaced ring, that he’s said it will happen before out next anniversary (May) but if he said whether it’ll be this year will tell me for sure when it will happen (his words), the fact that he knows how romantic I think Santorini is. On the other hand, he doesn’t seem excited for the trip (how can you not be excited for an all expense paid trip to the Greek Islands?!?), he keeps saying we won’t have time to do any of our own stuff as he thinks his parents will want to do stuff with us every day, and finally, I know he has not spoken to my dad yet (I know he would, and I know my dad would tell me).
Phew, ok I’m calmer now. Just needed to get that all out.
I will be so devestated and embarassed if he doesn’t happen though. I told one girl at work I was hoping for it to happen, and now the whole office thinks I’m getting married. My boss came up to me yesterday to congragulate me on my upcoming wedding next month lol. I was like, I wish?
Waiting for that surprise proposal used to be excting, now its just stressful and hard. I miss being excited about it.
Post # 2
My advice is to not get your hopes up but realize it could happen (just to calm your nerves).
My best friend just got engaged on vacation… less than a week before she left, she was telling me all the reasons it won’t happen, and it did! He was purposely putting her off the trail by telling her he wasn’t even sure he wanted to get married and how the traditional idea is silly. Of course, he custom-ordered the ring, had it rush delivered, proposed to her on a mountain-top, and now is all for a wedding with ALL their family!
Remember, your vacation is two weeks long 😉 Try to put it out of your mind! Easier said than done. lol
Post # 3
witchbaby: Wow, I can only imagine how stressful this all must be for you. Men have no idea how much agony they put us through. I really hope it happens for you during the vacation, but if it doesn’t just realize that he may have already planned an even more special proposal and wanted to wait until after the vacation. Also, he may have talked to your father but asked him to keep things quiet. Either way, try to breathe (I know easier said then done) and enjoy your vacation in Greece!
Post # 4
I may be wrong, I hope I’m not, but perhaps he’s really nervous and is going out of his way trying to look calm? I don’t know if you’ve gone yo Greece to see his family before, but I don’t think that’s something you do with just anyone. I know my FI went so far as to tell me not to expect a proposal within a year, because he couldn’t afford a ring. Liar haha! Like a month later he proposed.
In any event, have fun in Greece, and know this bee in particular is so jealous! 🙂
Post # 5
I thought for sure it would happen on vacation, and it didn’t. It sucked. I still had fun, but every walk on the beach, every dinner, i thought this is it! I realized halfway through that there was not a ring in the hotel safe and there was no way he left the ring in his luggage, so it wasnt going to happen. It sucked realizing it, but it helped me relax. My best advice is assume its not happening and make peace with it now. Anything that happens after that is icing on the cake! And trust me, I waited almost 8 years – you can wait a bit longer.
ETA: It was worth the wait! I promise you will forgot about these nagging feelings once it happens!
Post # 6
witchbaby: Do not get your hopes up, I speak from experience. I convinced myself my FI was going to propose on a weekend trip and when I realized it wasn’t going to happen I was completely devesated. It actually ruined the weekend. He ended up proposing less than a month later and it was perfect, but I wish I hadn’t psyched myself up and ruined our trip for nothing! Focus on the awesome trip and try to put the proposal to the back of your mind if you can.
Post # 7
witchbaby: 1) dont get your hopes up
2) stop thinking about it, just let it happen
Post # 8
I totally understand. My bf and I have been together for four years. We know we’re getting married and even have a date, but he has yet to pop the Question. We went on three weekend getaways this summer, and I was SURE each time was it. Finally last month he confessed he was having the hardest time picking a ring, so we picked it together. Knowing he has the ring has made the wait even HARDER!
I just keep telling myself to enjoy this time of my life because it will only happen once. One day I will look back and when I do I want to think of how much fun I had and not all of the agony it was!!