Post # 1
because “normal” people wouldn’t understand or would say I’m grasping for straws. LOL. And you guys might say that too, and I welcome that. Just need to get this out there so I won’t blow the christmas challenge. Which I’m doing beatifully by the way.
SO is making a big deal out of christmas present that he has purchased for me. Trying to throw me off track (that’s his MO). His hints are it’s very expensive, something I want, sexy, versatile – some of these don’t match a ring I know. I said “is it something you would like to see me wear?” he said “you could say that.” He calls it amazing, “boy are you going to have a special christmas” – those kind of things. He likes to buy me sexy little things to wear that’s why I asked that question. He already gave me a dress (that I can’t wear in public by the way….if you know what I mean).
He is moving into my place in the next few months, as soon as his house is ready to rent and rented. No equity so he doesn’t want to sell. Anyway, he’s a VERY and I emphasize VERY frugal man. He’s pouring thousands into my house, and I’ve made it clear I will not put him on the deed whilst not married. It doesn’t make sense to me that such a logical guy would pour thousands into MY house unless he plans on making it official.
Yet – I don’t want to get my hopes up. Just wanted to share with other waiting bees.
He also said “If I give it away before christmas I’m going to be so pissed.”
Other hint is weird. He went to his family’s for thanksgiving and they exchanged their gifts then. I asked what they got him and he said “I can’t tell you.”
apparently it’s “connected.”
I dunno…….bees, please chime in.
This is torture – huh?
Post # 3
I don’t tolerate teasing about gifts. It isn’t nice and it isn’t cute. If you can’t keep a secret, then tell me and ruin the surprise or give it to me now, but don’t taunt me with it because I didn’t ask you to get me a gift and it’s supposed to be because you wanted to give it to me from the goodness of your heart.
Sorry, this is a huge pet peeve. My mom always did this when I was a kid and I really can’t stand it.
Post # 4
Ugh i think the guys live for the teasing part. IT does sound like something is up!! It’ soooooooo hard not to get excited. I would be jumping up and down.. of course when i was ALONE so the “normals” dont think i’m weirder then they do already! Good LUCK!!!
Post # 5
Hmm.. those sure are some odd hints Haha. I’m stumped!
Post # 6
Ughh I hate when my husband does this! I can completely understand why you’d think it’s a ring. Especially since he’s spending this much money on your house UNLESS he does in fact want to make it official. Just don’t torture yourself TOO much. I would just enjoy the fantasy of thinking it COULD be a ring but not too much, because you may be disappointed when it’s not. I hate this for you though 🙁 I hate teasers! 🙂
But it sounds like you have a great man 🙂
Post # 7
Thanks everyone. I think the teasing is kind of “cute” sometimes, but sometimes I want to scream! He is excited like a little kid though, and he’s so adorable with that little sly fox smile on his face.
You’re right – they are odd hints. I could be totally off base here. to be honest, the spending money on my house thing is the most “encouraging” as far as it happening if not now, soon. I KNOW he would never throw a dime to the wind. It’s his nature…totally his nature. He’s been so generous with me, but this man is a TIGHTWAD. I mean a financial guru/wizard.
His previous marriage – not such a good thing for him financially. The woman depleted his savings, charged up credit cards, even “stole” money from him. Oh – took his credit card and left for London to go visit a man she was having an affiar with. So now he’s super careful.
oh boy….we’ll see right?
Post # 8
WOW he’s really mysterious. I would say it sounds to me as if it is something to be excited for! If not make him move out. J/K!!! TOTALLY kidding. No seriously, that is odd hints, something you will love, and wear, and wouldn’t tell you about the gift so he must have gotten a ring from grandma. GOOD LUCK can’t wait to see what it is!
I don’t understand why guys feel that teasing is the greatest thing when it drives us NUTS! My guy has been teasing me and it’s really irrating. His point has been he likes to torture me. One of my best friend’s thinks it’s hilarious!
Post # 9
I thought about the “ring from grandma” theory. More of a ring from “mama” in this case. His mom passed away years ago, and I’m certain his sister got her ring. (assuming she had a ring, but I would think so). His sister got pretty much everything because she threw a fit so of course my SO just caved in and took the “scraps.” But I digress… that’s another subject. His sister is a bit of a control freak, materiaiistic, gimmee gimmee I deserve everything and everyone must bow to me type of person. And my poor SO just gives in and takes her abuse. The good news is, she loves me and tells him not to “screw it up” with me. So, I wouldn’t say this theory couldn’t happen. I know they want him to be with me, they despised the previous wife for good reason and are so excited that he’s happy and in a seemingly “normal” relationship. (I mean really who among us is really “normal”)???
He was with his sister and family over thanksgiving when he supposedly acquired this gift, among some others. Anyway, I asked him what they got him and he couldn’t tell me. So I’m thinking – okay maybe sissy-poo gave him the ring.
I’m fantasizing, aren’t I? Oh well, I can do it here safely among bees.
Post # 10
I’m just confused by the “versitile and sexy” hints, as you said, these don’t quite sound like a ring. I dunno, I hope it’s a great surprise, just do your very, very best not to pin ALL your hopes on it being a ring (hard, I know) so whatever it is you can appreciate it and enjoy the holiday without deeling disappointed or sad. Just being Devil’s Advocate here – had many a disappointment on this count, and I hate to hear anyone else have that, “oh, a scarf. Thanks!” and then go off to cry first opportunity kind of Christmas. Alos, I think after reading on this site for a while, that most guys don’t realize quite how much we waiting women have “rings on the brain”, and that we hope for one almost around every corner – hence the teasing.
Post # 11
I hope it’s a ring, but you never know! There are SO many things it could be, especially since he’s bought you that dress.lol
I usually hate teasers, but I just realized, from reading this, I tease with gifts!LOL It’s fun though! Not harm, just fun. 🙂
Post # 12
FI and I always give hints like this for gifts. We make a big thing about keeping gifts secret until Christmas/Birthday/Anniversay etc., but we always give obscure hints to lead each other in the right direction.
Try not to get your hopes up though! The hint thing as backfired on me before. One year (before we were engaged) he said, “it’ll match something you already have,” and “it’s really pretty.” Thinking that because he just bought me a promise ring it would match that I automatically had it set in my head that I was getting diamond earrings….WRONG! lol It was a sterling silver bracelet that matched heart shaped earrings I already had. I was let down, but hey it was my own fault! What concerns me about your hint is the word “versatile.” hmmmm…
When I got my engagement ring for Christmas last year it was a little more obvious. FI would say, “this is going to be a really special Christmas,” or “you’re one spolied girl.” He even went as far as to say, “this Christmas I’m going to show you how much I love you.” Obviously the surprise was taken away a bit by that one!! lol.
Good luck to you though! Fingers crossed 🙂
Post # 13
I have to admit, both my SO and I looooove doing this to each other! We always give at least 2 clues. I am excited for you! I thought this sooo many times, and was wrong 🙁 but I’m expecting it in the next couple of weeks, so I’m not too worried. How exciting for you, I hope it’s a ring!!
Post # 14
I’m thinking it’s a ring. Boys love to tease their girls and keep us guessing! 🙂
Post # 15
Hey, I think diamonds can be sexy! 🙂 Still trying to figure out how a ring might be versatile… oh well, my fingers are crossed for you!
Post # 16
yeah – versatile is throwing me. Last night I got one more hint and he said it’s the last one. Ready for this one? CREATIVE.
I’m going to go forward thinking it’s not a ring. if I can. Oh shoot, I can’t do that who am I kidding?