Post # 1
I wrote about a month ago that my BF broke up with me because I have been dealing with depression for close to 3 years brought on by a medical condition and then a huge hormonal imbalance – estrogen dominance. He said that he just couldn’t take the arguing anymore and just wants to be friends. However, he does not know what the future may bring. He may feel differently later but he needs space right now. I told him it’s not what I want but I will let him go and try to be his friend and I would give him his space.
So I started counseling and bio-identical hormones and I am feeling so much better. The therapy helped me realize that I was in the stages of grief that people go through when they have a potentially fatal illness. I got stuck in the anger stage and was mad at my body for letting me down. I was able to forgive my body. It was like a weight was lifted. I feel so much better.
The therapist also said that she believes he is not done with this relationship yet. I explained our last convo and she said that she doesn’t think this is what he wants either.
I really want to call him and tell him that I figured out what made me broken annd I am on the mend and I feel great…but I can’t. He needs his space. So I decided to tell you…
Post # 3
I’m glad that you are feeling better.
Post # 4
Good for you…continue to get well and treat yourself better and the rest will work out. 🙂 For whatever reason, I was really moved by this post. Thank you. =)
Post # 5
I’m glad to hear you are feeling better. I think that your choice regarding him right now is a good one. Allow him space, and yourself plenty of time to heal. It will all come together at some point.
Post # 6
I am happy that you found out what your problem was, and that you are getting better.
FI and I broke up almost 4 years ago for like 3 months. It actually was the greatest thing we could have done. We remained semi friends, we talked on the phone every couple of weeks or so. When there was an emergency in our area I called him to make sure everything was ok. I ended up even dating a different guy for like a month, but that guy turned out to be a little weird.
We got our space. We got to think clearly about our lives apart and what was wrong and right about eachother. We both realized what we were doing wrong in the relationship.
We eventually ended up talking more and hanging out with eachother. We decided to start dating again, because we knew that we bother were doing things that hurt our relationship. Now we have the best relationship ever. The breakup had made our relationship stronger and has brought us closer togeather.
I have taken a good look at my entire past and have figured out that things happen for a reason (and a good reason).
I hope everything eventually works out for you.
Post # 7
Thanks for all the positive comments!
@pinkhorse – I won’t lie. I hope I can tell the same story as yours. We were together a total of 7 years. The first 4 were great and I think a proposal was on the way before I got sick. That medical condition has been resolved. Now I just have to get the hormone imbalance straightened out. The doctor says 3 months.
I told my therapist that I need to work on me and I would love it if he was there beside me. But, he may not be. The last time we talked I told him I was going to therapy and asked him to just think about coming with me. That’s all I can do. He knows how I feel. Either way, I will survive. In my heart I don’t feel like he is gone yet. And I do believe that this is the make it or break it point for us.
Post # 8
Congratulations on the progress you have made. Please be gentle on yourself and your reationship. Do not contact him too soon as not many men will accept that there has been significant change in one month.
Post # 9
I agree – I am not going to contact him. It’s hard but I have a file named “Things I want to Say to W but won’t”. It helps just getting it out.