Post # 1
I apologize in advance if this post is TMI but I need someone to talk to!
So I was going to wait until the end of this month to start TTC, but last night DH and DTD, however, I was on the last day of my period, so not expecting anything to happen. We leave for our vacation next Wednesday and I am expecting to be ovulating between the 15th and 18th.
I already starting taking prenatals a couple of weeks ago.
Question, do the positions matter? Last night I was on top, but should we not do it that way? My sister made a joke and said “what goes up must come down” and recommended that I elevate my legs/hips when I am done.
And how often should we be DTD?
Any tips? Thanks ladies!
Post # 2
From what I understand, the position does not really matter. If you want, you can lie still on your back for about 10 minutes afterward just to let everything get settled in there, but this is not really necessary; it’s just an added precaution.
And if you have sex 2-3 times per week, that is enough. The sperm can live inside you for a few days. The ideal scenario (not that you have to plan it this way, just FYI) is that you have sex and then ovulate, so that when the egg drops, the sperm are already in there, ready to go.
(This info is from my own experience with 2 pregnancies. For my first pregnancy, I saw a reproductive endocrinologist and had an IUI (artificial insemination, basically). After the doctor inserted my husbo’s sperm in me, he had me stay lying down for 10 minutes. He also told me that the sperm live inside me for up to 3 days, and that was why they did the procedure right before they expected me to ovulate.)
Post # 3
I don’t think there are any studies showing whether or not certain positions are better than others. How often you want to DTD is up to you. Some say EOD until O, some do every day leading up to O and then the day after just in case, some just DTD when they feel like and don’t worry about planning it out. It’s really up to you guys on how much effort you’re willing to put into trying.
How do you know when you are ovulating? Are you temping, going to do OPKs, or going by a general app?
When we started TTC, we just DTD when we felt like it, a couple times a week. After 3 cycles of not getting pregnant, I started temping/charting everything and we try to hit the fertile window as much as possible. On cycle 11 TTC now.
Good luck OP! Try not to get discouraged if it doesn’t happen right away!
Post # 4
As an FYI, travel can delay ovulation, so you might not ovulate when you expect to. I highly recommend reading “Taking Charge of Your Fertlity” (available on Amazon for about $17 bucks new or $9 used) if you haven’t already. It is a great resource for temping/charting, but even if you’re not interested in the charting aspect, it has great infomation regarding your cycle and TTC and so much more. It should seriously be required reading for every woman.
If it’s your first month TTC, I wouldn’t stress too much about how often/what position/etc. Just relax and have fun with it for a few months. TTC can be very stressful, especially if it takes you a while, so keep it kinda laid-back while you can. If it’s taking a long time, THEN you can start looking at changing things. For example, missionary position tends to allow the sperm to be deposited closer to the cervix. You could try supplementing with a sperm-friendly lubricant like Conceive Plus or Preseed. You could avoid oral sex (just during the fertile period) because there is some evidence that saliva can be detrimental to sperm. You could try laying down for 10-20 minutes after sex. But seriously, don’t worry about that stuff now, because hopefully you’ll get pregnant within a few cycles and not HAVE to worry about it at all!
Do be aware, however, that once you start TTC, you will likely notice symptoms you’ve never noticed before, and they will probably get your hopes up that you’re pregnant, even if you’re not. I swear I never noticed breast tenderness before TTC, but once I started, boy, did I notice it then! There were several times when I would think I might be because of the “symptoms” I was having, but so many early-pregnancy symptoms are also symptoms that AF is right around the corner.
Post # 5
No studies have shown that positions matter. Do whatever relaxes you and makes you feel most comfortable. This is a time where you want to feel very stress-free and worrying about positions could maybe do more harm than good. I think sex every 2 or 3 days is good, then in your fertile window every day or every other day. Apparently, it’s best to wait at least 8 hours between BD sessions so that the sperm quality is high.
Post # 6
MissCountryGirl727: How do you know when you are ovulating? Are you temping, going to do OPKs, or going by a general app?
Excellent question! Do be aware that if you choose to use OPKs, OP, that they do not confirm ovulation. They only detect the hormone surge (LH) that happens before ovulation. It’s possible to have multiple LH surges before ovulation actually occurs, and some women have LH surges but never actually release an egg from the ovary. They are a nice starting point, but not perfect.
Post # 7
MissCountryGirl727: Miss Apricot: i did buy the book and its very informative. i learned that not every woman ovulates on day 14, it varies according to your menstrual cycle. I am not on a perfect cycle of 28 days, i vary from 30-33 days. I am still reading the book, so i have a lot more to learn
Post # 8
Daizy914: after trying for over a year and a half my last attempt was ok im going to put a pillow under my butt so whats in there stays in there…i also heard you should not move for 20 mins afterwards..needless to say i laid there with my legs in the air (not literally up in the air) for 20 mins; 8 weeks later (because im so irregular i didnt think anything about being “late”) i found out i was pregnant! 🙂 so i would suggest that!
Post # 9
imhisoneandonly: omg! thats amazing!!! congrats!!!! so exciting!!!
Post # 10
Daizy914: What worked best for me was to not think about it. Hubby and i tried “holding it in”, putting my legs in the air, “saving up the goods” for a few days, having sex every day, having sex every other day and we didnt get pregnant untill we did nothing. We had no idea… didnt even try that month… if your stressed out about it, the odd of it happening are slim and i dont know about you… but Hubby and i didnt want to concieve a child under those conditions and now we couldnt have asked for a better more perfect experiance.
Post # 11
Daizy914: this was 3 years ago..but still 🙂
Pappy8: i think mine had a little to do with it too. cuz the husband said this is it we are not trying anymore its too stressful! so i just kind of put it in the back of my mind (while i laid with butt in air)
Post # 12
Just have fun. Fwiw, I was actively trying to remove DHs business after we DTD and I got pregnant. If it’s going to happen it will whether you’re on top or not.