Post # 1
Ok, I found one other thread here about this, but the bride didn’t actually *tell* her bridesmaids in that case not to wear their wedding bands and e-rings – mine has.
So the groom (I am a groomschick) called the other night and very awkwardly told me his darling has decided none of the ladies in the wedding party should wear any jewelry except what we are apparently getting as gifts. I jokingly said, “as long as it doesn’t include my rings!” and he was like, “actually….”
I’m completely horrified. I mean, my rings aren’t fashion jewelry, they are basically part of me now!
Why would a bride ask this?
What do I do? I’d back out, but I’d hate to disappoint my friend, especially since this isn’t his idea.
Post # 3
@starrynight: That’s ridiculous. You can barely even see rings in photos, what does it matter? I would tell them what you wrote here, your rings are a part of you and if they go, you go! That’s just selfish on the bride’s part in my opinion.
Post # 4
I’d talk to her directly. I’d want to hear the reason(s) from the bride’s own mouth why, instead of involving a middle-man.
If it’s just for the ceremony, I’d deal with it. If it’s for the whole wedding day, then I’d have a few choice words for her.
Post # 5
Excuse me? your wedding rings are not part of the “contract” so no. Tell him you are wearing your rings. You are married, so no ifs ands or buts.
Post # 6
I’m sorry, my wedding band and engagement ring are not optional. I’d just wear them and plead ignorance if she says something.
Post # 7
Hahahaha that’s ridiculous. Call your friend and ask about it, and then flatly refuse. What a control freak.
Post # 9
Ugh…NO!!! That seems like a very unreasonable demand, especially coming from a bride (you’d think she of ALL people would realize what a strong sentiment and attachment people have for their wedding/engagement rings!). I’ve never heard of anything like this before…
Post # 10
This is the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard. Your rings represent your commitment to your husband which trumps any commitment to this zilla’s wedding day.
Post # 11
Roll your eyes, say a small prayer asking for strength not to sucker-punch her, suck it up, and take off the rings. It’s stupid and ridiculous and selfish but it is what it is. And if you try to fight it, it will only cause problems for your friend. So, unless you really truly can’t ake off your rings, I’d just do it. It’s just one day. And that way you still get to be there for your friend.
Post # 13
Is she afraid everyone else’s rings will “out-bling” hers or something? I just can’t even fathom… This is absurd.
Post # 14
Wow…yeah, I’d also try talking to her. My rings are totally a part of me now, and I wouldn’t dream of not wearing them to a wedding…especially one that I was in!
Post # 16
Wow can you say Bridezilla?? Ive never even heard of such a thing! I would NEVER agree to that Ive been engaged for 8 months and my ring has never left my finger once, not for a shower, not while swimming, baking, nothing so I certaintly wouldnt take it off for someone elses wedding. Id tell her where she can go if she insists my rings cant be worn. How insane, I cant even wrapy my head around this hahaha ridiculous!