(Closed) Cantor/Rabbi for Ceremony

posted 7 years ago in Jewish
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@LuckyJuls:

 

Hi! Congrats on your wedding! How exciting that you have a place to start — the cantor! I would definitely contact him. I don’t think in most cases that cantors are Rabbis, so as long as you’re sure he wasn’t a rabbi (keep in mind that Rabbis can chant prayers beautifully too, so is there a chance it was a rabbi at the funeral?), I’d go ahead and refer to him as Cantor so and so. Depending on personality, he may tell you you can call him by name once you know eachother, but it’s a good place to start.

 

Im not sure if a cantor can do the ketubah ceremony. I would use that cantor to find a rabbi that fits your needs (reform, conservative, orthodox, etc.) and the rabbi can answer questions about what he requires.

 

As for the chuppah and ketubah, around us the florist provides the chuppah and we purchase our own ketubah. It would be nice if the rabbi would take care of all of that for you, but keep in mind you might want to customize one or both to fit you as a couple.

 

Sorry I don’t have all the answers, but I hope I helped in some way!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

Hi,

I am/was in the same situation.  My family came from the Soviet Union and never really reconnected with our religion but still respect our heritage and the culture.  

To answer your question about finding a rabbi.  FI and I basically looked for local listings on websites that have wedding vendors.  we interviewed a lot of rabbis and some even referred us to others that may have been a better fit.  Eventually we found one we loved through this method.

I believe that a cantor can officiate a wedding and preside over the signing of a ketubah.  However I would just double check when you speak to him.  I’m not really sure how to address them though.

Where are you located?

 

eta: I forgot to mention that here, rabbis do not provide the chuppah or ketubbah.  Our florist is making and decorating our chuppah and we are purchasing the ketubbah ourselves.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

A cantor can definitely conduct a wedding.  Under Jewish law, a Jewish ceremony does not need an officiant at all–just the couple and the witnesses to the ketubah.  Under civil law, either a rabbi or a cantor can conduct the ceremony.

If the cantor doesn’t have a chuppah and a ketubah, you can get your own.  We made the chuppah for our ceremony, and the one for my son’s ceremony was also DIY.  Just Google “DIY chuppah,” and you will find lots of examples and instructions.  Or a lot of florists and rental stores can rent you a chuppah.

For a ketubah, check out your nearest Jewish bookstore.  You can also find one online, but it’s easier to visualize one you can see in person than one of which you see only a small photo.

Below are pictures of our chuppah and our ketubah.  The ketubah is the “Embrace” ketubah from 20th Century Illuminations.

Post # 7
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659 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

A cantor presided over our wedding – same cantor that was my bat mitzvah tutor.  It’s also nice knowing if you want them to sing, they can do it! 

Our florist provided the chuppah – perfect because we didn’t have to worry about anything.  I think most florists in/near urban areas would be able to do that. 

And we got our ketubah from Etsy – there are TONS there to look over or to find an artist that can do custom work.  If you’re attached to another languague, maybe they can write russian poems or something on it?  We have a custom one :  http://www.etsy.com/listing/69666196/reserved-jess-and-michael-talmud-ketubah

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