Post # 1
My bridal shower is around the corner and my sister who is hosting it and sent out the invites received a card from an old family friend at her house that was sliced open on top. The card is congratulating me on the wedding and saying she won’t be able to attend the shower or wedding. My Mom, sister, & I are concerned that since the card was sliced opened there could have been a check, cash, or gift card inside. How do we tactfully handle this?
Post # 3
I would send her a thank you for the card. Maybe she’ll pick up the hint that you only got a card.
Post # 4
Honestly, I would have your sister call (not you) and be honest – ‘I received your card for VtoM today unfortunately it arrived open, thankfully the card wasn’t damaged – I’ll be sure to bring it to the shower’. That should trigger her if there was something in there.
My only concern about the thank you note is that she might think you’re being ‘rude’ by not directly thanking her for her gift.
Post # 5
If there was a check in there, she may be able to cancel it if it’s caught quickly.
I would let her know that the card arrived opened, and you were just concerned about your mail being treated like that, and thought she has a right to know.
Something like that (sorry, not very eloquent)
Post # 6
@MsGinkgo: I agree – have your sister call and mention that it was sliced open when she received it. I would want to know if I was the sender of the card.
Post # 7
@VtoM: I would call and tell her the card was opened, and thank her for the response 🙂
Post # 8
I don’t think there is anything wrong with your mom or sister calling the lady and explaining that the card arrived open and it concerned them if there was something inside. I would think the person would be happy that you were concerned rather than annoyed that you called on the off chance they only sent a card.
Post # 10
I would have your sister call and tell her the card came open at the top and you wanted to be sure there was nothing inside that she needed to cancel for her own security.
Post # 11
Agreed that your sister should call and let her know the card arrived opened.
Post # 12
she needs to know that it came opened in case there was a check in there. just have your sister or your mom call and explain what happened.
Post # 13
^ this. Because if there WAS a check in they will want to cancel it and should do that ASAP.