Post # 1
Hello lovely bees!
So I was just reading another post about having a cardBoxx and thinking… What if someone runs off with it? We are having a receiving line so I could have a purse thingy or a box. SIL’s wedding ending up with a HUGE amount of cash and I have been told to anticipate this. There is a safe on site so we don’t have to worry about it getting stolen from the car. But during cocktails there will be tons of people and staff… I hate thinking the worst of people but it makes me nervous. I’m the kind of person who never carries cash so I an wary of it being stolen when I do.
Is this a concern of anyone else? How did married bees handle cash?
Sorry for the typos it’s difficult from my phone
Post # 3
YES sadly it can be a concern… but a lot depends on HOW “open to the general public” your venue is… and WHERE your Cards & Best Wishes Box is located within the venue.
So… a Hotel Ballroom, with a lot of people coming and going, and the Card Box being near the front door… IS NOT a good idea (further into the room would be better)
But if that is the only place you can put it… so be it. I know lots of people who have told the Bridal Party that they need to keep an eye on it / take turns… which is realtively easy if the Box also happens to be on the same table as the Guest Book… then they are sitting there under the guise of encouraging Guests to sign / leave Best Wishes.
Just so you know… In my experience a lot of folks do tuck cash into their cards… so it is important to have a plan. I know after my first wedding (circa 1980) we were truly bowled over by how much we received in Wedding Money… be it Cash or Cheques within our cards… all of it very much appreciated !!
Post # 4
The gift and card box tables should be within eyesight at all times. It’s really only going to be used at the beginning of the reception, so even if its behind your head table, that’s fine.
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Yes, you should be concerned-unfortunately, I know this first hand. Unfortunately, during our ceremony, someone went through our card box. I used a bird cage style box, and had ribbons on it, so you couldn’t open it, but someone from the venue or catering staff was able to dump cards out- cash/gift cards were stolen from three cards (including from my in-laws!!)
Our DOC (a friend) cancelled a few days before, and one of her responsibilities was to watch the box/gift table during the ceremony, which didn’t happen. Our ceremony was outside, so none of our guests were inside the venue/reception area when this happened.
So my advice- make the box secure, that no one can open or dump anything out of it. Have the gift/card table in a very visible location. In your case, if all the cards can go into the safe after the receiving line, that’s a fantastic idea.
Post # 6
We had a smaller wedding (around 70 guests) and the majority of our gifts were already shipped to our house. At the wedding itself, we only had about three boxed gifts (sizeable ones) and we just kept them outside the venue on a table. Nothing was stolen and our venue is technically accessible by the public (although it would be obvious that they were intruding on a private event). We didn’t go the card box route and most people just hung onto their cards and gave it to us when we went around the roomk, greeting everyone, or they gave them directly to one of our parents. When they would give it to us directly, we just hung onto it and gave it to one of our parents as soon as we were able (sometimes, one of them was literally hovering behind us). We didn’t lose any cards (and we had probably 20-25 of them) and all the gifts were fine too.
Post # 7
Our cardbox will be in the entry hall of the venue and there’s no reason anyone should be in the venue unless they’re attending the wedding.
That being said, we’re removing the card box once the reception starts and locking it up in our room.