- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 1999
So i am a very career-driven person, and i worked very hard for my license and to get to where i am. i also LOVE my job, and am determined to “have it all” – have a family, go back to work, continue to advance, etc. I have the world’s most supportive husband, who also happens to have a flexible job, but by no means would ever be a stay at home dad (plus he makes more than i do).
i work in a VERY male-dominated environment, literally all the higher-ups are men. It has started to shift in recent years, but i can’t help but fear that getting pregnant will hinder the path i’m on and my ability to make partner. Not necessarily that i would get overlooked by my firm, but that i would be unable to keep up the hours and maintain the drive it takes to get there. and there aren’t exactly any role models for me to follow. this makes me feel very confused and uncertain about the future.
Would love to hear from any bees who “have it all” or want to, or those who thought they did and changed their tune when they had kids. just trying to wrap my head around what to expect and what is realistic for once i have kids. i guess it’s just hard to envision this as yet nonexistent being changing my world and career path, and i’m trying to prepare myself for that possibility. anyone been through this?