Career opportunities plus desire to be a mother

posted 2 years ago in Career
Post # 2
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Blushing bee

How much difference in pay would it be for you?

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

Your story is the reason my fi and I are trying to wait for me to finish school before having a family. Because of the considerable amount of money, I would do both.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

Brooke1226:  Ignore the kids issue for a moment. Do you want to be the Director at some point? Would the work interest you? If yes, then you should do it. There is no reason that you shouldn’t be able to do both. Men don’t tend to consider whether their career aspirations will affect when/if they have children. I think this is sort of a pressure we put on ourselves that parenting is still considered ‘women’s domain.’ Does your partner also have (or might they attain) a similarly time consuming position? If you are both pulling extreme hours, it would be a lot more difficult to manage but assuming he steps up, kids shouldn’t have to limit what you do at work. Especially working for gov – they are very, very good with flexible working options! And paid parental leave, whoo hoo!! Is there a reason you specifically want 1 -2 years off? If you partner earns less, it might make more financial sense for him to take that period, though I get emotionally wanting to be there. Another thing – if you do do the degree, it might actually work out nicely with that period of mat leave. Assuming you start the degree next year, you would be almost two-thirds of the way done by the time the baby is actually born. Then you only have to juggle study and baby for that last bit, instead of study, baby and work on top. Not that it wouldn’t be exhausting with bub of course. Could you do some of it part time during stressful periods (eg – newborn)?   

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Brooke1226:  I say go for it – do the degree 🙂 When you start TTC, it may not work out in your first few cycles anyway.. it could easily take 6months or even a year and by then you’d be almost done with the degree anyway. And if not these things can be made to work.. you can put the degree on hold for a while, etc..  I know a girl who did a full-time degree while being a full-time single Mum witih a part-time job… she used to take her little girl to lectures while she slept in her pushchair 🙂 Obviously you won’t need to do that but the fact is if you want something you can make it happen… if you want to be a great Mum and have a great career, you can make it work.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee

Brooke1226:  My partner and I are similar. We are way, way off having kids but I am the more ‘driven’ out of us both. He is happy to work a job he likes, whereas I want to have that constant thing to work towards or I feel stagnated. This means I will likely always be the main breadwinner  but more money = more hours etc. It works for us but I think if that is the case, there is no reason he cannot take on a majority of the parenting workload when the time comes. Honestly, working as a partnership there is no reason you can’t ‘have it all.’ 🙂 Do what you love.

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

I went to college full time (graduated Magna Cum Laude), and worked, and raised DS as a single parent. It’s totally doable, and was worth the exhaustion to set myself up fopr the career I have and the income I bring home. If they are willing to pay for your school and set you up for future success, you’d be crazy to turn that down. There’s no reason you can’t TTC and raise a child while in school, seeing as you will have a partner to share the workload with and his income to support you should you need to reduce your work level in order to juggle everything.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Brooke1226:  Will the degree option (and paid for by work) still be available after you’ve had children?  How likely will it be that you’ll go back to school with small kids?  

If it were me, I’d go now.  I’d jump on the chance to get my education paid for by someone else.  I’d take my Director up on the offer to have them invest in me (having a higher up who likes you and supports you is huge, it makes getting doors to open much easier.)  I, personally, would be unlikely to go back to school with small kids. 

If you were 10 years older, I’d say have your kids.  But the option to have children will still be there without much issue for a few years (unless there’s an underlying issue you haven’t mentioned.)  

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Brooke1226:  With that info, I’d jump on this opportunity. 

Good Luck either way!

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